Found a pill in house...

[Scared2Death897]

Ok...so my husband has been on and off of pain killers for a few years...occasionally trying to come off completely, with mostly failed results. I have had interventions, and he even went to a support place at one time...I became pregnant 7 months ago, and he really decided 'ok, enough of this is enough,' and apparently quit cold turkey. Things had been going ok, great even, until last night...I discovered a pain killer pill on our hallway floor. It loked kind of old and ragged, but with two dogs who like to investigate with their mouths, it wouldn't have surprised me if they attempted to eat it and spit it back out. How do I bring this up with him?

[Scared2Death897]

Thanks for all of your help and support everyone...I had no idea I would get this much help.
One thing I did leave out...my grandmother, of all people, also uses...but she has an rx for legitament joint pain. My husband has in the past gotten pills from her...half of the time without even having to ask for them.  
The one I found on the floor last night, a pink lorocet (spell?), matches completely with what she takes...and he visits her on occasion just 'to be nice.' That makes me think that she was the provider. I have found out in the past that even AFTER ME ASKING HER TO STOP she had given him more. Yeah...this is my blood grandma we're talking about. God, it's craziness.
I do feel the need to approach him soon, like today...but def will not go about it yelling or freaking out. The ironic thing is that I never have yelled or screamed about this...only cried infront of him (and I am not one to how my emotions easily). I have plans to help at our church with vacation bible school and won't be home until later this evening.

[NautyOne]

Sorry bout putting a baby in the house....lol.  One thing I have noticed is that women tend to be more careful with pills.....Men, on the other hand, are not so careful.  They tend to be more careless.  Shitz, I would notice if one pill was missing from my bottle by just looking at it....Oiy!

Keep the pill and check the dog.....If he starts jonezen than it's confirmed..lol.  Sorry, this is not funny........hold on to the pill and watch him for a while to see if you see any signs that he is using, if you don't want to confront him at this time.

Nauty........

[sinko]

Hi There.

A pill on the floor is totally INEXSCUSABLE no matter how it got there. I have been addicted to opiate pain killers for 20 years (prescribed ) and have 9 kids. I have my ups and downs but I am a damn good Dad and husband....er so I am told.lol
The problem you have is two fold. You firstly have to decide where that pill came from. Secondly, IF you think your man was involved you need to be careful how you approach it. IF it wasnt him ( theres a small chance it came in via the tread on a shoe ) and you go out all guns blazing, you are likely to start him off thinking, what the hell and start taking them again. Just mention you found it and look for the reaction. DO NOT blame him first.
Good luck. And congats on your coming rugrat!

[Scared2Death897]

No new baby yet...but I have about 2 months to go :o) Nonetheless, everything makes 100% sense to me regarding having a child around. NOT that it matters, but you know trying for a baby was a total mutual decision. That's what kills me among seeing him like this.

[NautyOne]

I highly doubt that an pill just happens to pop-up on the floor.  Been there done that.  It most likely was being carried on a person and fell out.  If it's not yours or your babies....Hmmm?.......I would be concerned and would confront him on what you found, and as the above poster stated.  You have a new baby in the house.......that is inexcusable.......to me.

Luv,
nauty........

[Scared2Death897]

   Yeah...it's hard to tell if there's been major behavioral changes. I guess when I think about it, there are days when he's more uppity than others when coming home from work. Our pregnancy was pretty much planned...but maybe now that it's reslly hit him, I could see a relapse. I have to admit, I don't bring up the addiction often...I guess I can be easily decieved. But I do want to acknowledge that I found it.
   The timing ***** because (I know this doesn't belong here) just this week, I came home to finding him watching porn in our living room (I knew he had a collection, and was OK with it as long as I did not see it)...he thought I was going to be runnig errands that afternoon. I wasn't terribly mad about this, just a little shocked, and he was extremely embarrased, etc. It's just not a good time for any of this. Last night, he did not kiss me back when getting intimate...he sort of had the attitude of get it on and over with. So, is that from the pills or guilt from being caught with "other stuff'?
So it's kind of been a crappy week for me. Ugh! Lighting does strike twice I guess.

[dama66]

what if it was your new baby crawling on the floor who found it?  I would calmly try to talk to him about the fact that its not just about you and him anymore.  I would also talk to a professionals.  What i have found with my husband who just recently went off pain killers is that he is super sensitive to stress.  I would think having a baby could be a HUGE trigger to take drugs again.  If he is anxiety ridden about a baby and providing for a family, he needs professional help to learn other ways of coping with stress.  I would approach it by asking him how he is feeling about the upcoming change in his life.  Maybe just ask him if he is stressed and if you want to work together on finding ways to handle stress (i.e. therapy, excercise, vacation, etc.) just to give him a support system for this life change.  Acknowledge that now might be a trigger for a relapse and you want to help him get any extra support he may need....

[SophieShine]

Hi! You gotta know that we addicts are the beat liars there is especially when it concerns our addiction. Did you notice any change in his behavior lately? Is there anything that tells you that he might be addicted again?
I wouldn't beat around the bush, just be straight forward and ask him but that's me, I just can't stand a liar.
Best of luck to you. xoxoxo. sophie.

[Scared2Death897]

...and what is the likelihood that this is simply an old pill? I doubt seriously that he would have passed it up if he had found it in the house somewhere.