meth mouth

[luciferafaye]

my fiance says he did meth from age 18-20. Ive always hated everything about the drug, ive never done it..but it horrifies me. But i love him. He refuses to show me his teeth, and i know he deals with regret. Hes been clean five years and although hes coming to visit this summer, i dont wanna be overwhelmed..i dont rly like damaged teeth..at all..but i love him so much that idc..ive cried about the awful pain he must feel, that meth was supposed to "fix" i want to know what i should expect of his teeth after two yrs usage..and what can i say to him to make him feel supported, bc i avoid that whole subject for fear of him becoming more remorseful, and relapsing...

[luciferafaye]

thanks :)

[dominosarah]

For some reason this man has been made to feel ashamed about his teeth.  He has achieved a great accomplishment getting clean.  Most of us here know the battle he has been thru.  It isnt what is on the outside, it is what is on the inside that matters....teeth can be fixed.           sara

[10356]

Hi luciferafaye.. meth mouth is caused by the drying up of saliva that comes with doing speed. our saliva actually washes our teeth.. he should be very proud of his recovery.. a great way to brooch it with him is you want him as healthy as possible and if we have decayed teeth it actually can cause problems with our heart.. so it would be in his best interest to have them worked on as you want to spend a long life with him. I send my Congratulations to him for what he has accomplished and hope that you get the nerve to speak to him not through your distaste for the way his teeth look but for the Health benefits of having them fixed.. I wish you both the very best.. lesa

[luciferafaye]

thanks so much for ur advice. Ill see what he says

[trdofbeingtrd]

I still have teeth falling out, and I don't like to "make out" with my wife, although I can because of the same reason.

Here is the thing, he needs to feel proud for stopping and being clean this long. If you don't like the idea, I understand, but you can have him message me, or let him read the post here.

If I can help in any way, or if you have any questions, please ask here or message me.

[luciferafaye]

yeah...he refuses to smile bc hes ashamed :( he doesnt understand why i love him and i dont wanna make him uncomfortable..i wish i knew an easier way to broach the topic without fearing hurting him, or him feeling worse bc i obviously cant tell him i love unhealthy teeth..we value honesty, but it seems that to keep from shaming me or hurting me, he avoids the topic so he cant lie. Im not going to leave him bc of this flaw, but idk what to say to someone in this situation. Someone who is overridden by guilt everytime he looks at himself, and fears expressing joy bc his teeth are decayed..im saving money to help get them fixed, but for now i think he needs my love and support. Im so proud of his five yrs of abstinence. I hope we move past this demon

[vicki595]

Gee...I'm confused.  You are engaged to be married and you've never seen his teeth? How can that be?

I wouldn't know,personally,how you should prepare or what you should expect. The worst I would guess...

But,you can't avoid this. Especially because you know you won't like it. Better get talking about it before he shows up.