I'm bringing this problem to ya'll one more time

[loveandlight05]

I've thrown out several times to meet to my sponsor. Each one doesn't work for her schedule. Im beyond frustrated with her. This is not working. So I called my mom to bat around ideas, and she tells me I'm being manic and need to be putting in more work maybe.

SMART has two meeting times about 45 minutes away from me, so if I were to go that route, I would be doing more online work such as the modules than meetings. I truly feel that is the only route for me. My husband works a 24/7 on call job now, and he is finally making money. He cannot commit to being home at any time, and we truly need the cash.

I work full time days and have the twins to myself in the evening. Babysitting isn't a choice because we are just now at a point where we can afford our bills. What on earth should I do?

[weaver71]

Yeah, it's not like you are married to your sponsor, it's okay to swap them out at any time. I had to fire one, it was so horrible, I don't even like to talk about it to those in early recovery. Just like dating, you don't have to marry the first person you reach out to connect with. Shop around, break some hearts if you have to, but don't settle on anyone who doesn't work for you.

[dominosarah]

I would talk with your sponsor and tell her how frustrated you are.  There is nothing wrong with being honest with her.

[lulu747]

Hey Love-

As I mentioned from the beginning, I think SMART is a great option for you, being that it specializes in people with Type A plus personalities (:
Maybe I'm biased, because it's what has worked so well for me.  I also just introduced a friend of mine to it who has been struggling with his sobriety for years.  He also has food issues (binge eating) and he is doing absolutely awesome.  In fact, he celebrated 1 month clean a couple of weeks ago, and is the happiest and most at peace he's ever been.  He'd had stretches of sobriety before, but was always white knuckling it.  He'd go to NA but would end up using again- I think this has more to do with the meetings in our specific city where most of the participants are there by court order.
He is an entirely different person and I couldn't be happier for him.  Anyways, I know that you will choose to do what is right for you.  I know that if you get to the point where two meetings a week and modular work is not enough, you WILL step up your game and hit an AA meeting as well.  Or you could do as I did, and have a private counselor.  This is easier because YOU can schedule the sessions and fit them in to your life.
As long as you keep working on recovery, the support will appear.
I believe this because I believe the Universe (or whatever higher power we believe in) supports us endlessly when we act in accordance with our most authentic selves.
Proud of you....
Lu

[jifmoc]

Wow, I interpreted what Gnarly said as, maybe you don't have an answer yet TODAY, but keep asking and searching and you will. So smart!!! I'm gonna apply that advice to other aspects of my own life!

Yeah, for you maybe you just don't have the answer...yet! But you will. You keep asking for help which imo is awesome!!:)

[loveandlight05]

Thanks Gnarly. II hear what you're saying. I won't give up. I just want to work a single program, not three.

[gnarly_1]

Hi   well it is a difficult thing with as buzzy as most people are  just do the best you can smart might be a better plan for you.. I make time for 4 meeting a week but all my kids are grown any ways dont give up this disease is out to kill you most fail without aftercare it is a lot more then just the pills   we dont think like Normies N/A address the fact that this is a unendurable disease and has to be treated you will find that the addictive behaviors will stick with you just not as much with a program of recovery keep pushing forward you can do this .....Gnarly