partner with pill problem

[dialectialdarlin]

I suffer from Fibromyalga and am prescribed Oxycotin for my pain.  I have been dealing with this for years and have only resently found what helps me.  However, my partner of 3 years has been stealing them from me.  it started with a couple here and a couple there but at one point I found over 30 missing over a week period.  we just had a baby and I have kicked him out before because of this, and he will get better for a while, then some normal stress will happen and he will get in to them again.  I have even locked them up and he still finds a way.  He refuses to go to NA and keeps thinking that all he has to do is not take them, well that would be great but it never sticks.  I really don't know what to do as I will most likely need to have some form of pain medication for the rest of my life.  Is this something he can just stop doing or does he need to get professional help? I don't even know what it is he sees in them as they don't effect me in the same way, they just help me with my pain, I don't really know what it is that he is up against.
any thoughts?
thanks you
Darlin.

[dialectialdarlin]

thanks I'll look in to it.

[enemy48]

Okay, so it's sounding like you didn't take the meds before the relatonship.  They came in to the relationship.  

Well, if he's experimented a little w/other drugs, it's not surprising that he'd want to find out what this was all about.  Too bad he liked it.

Hey, about the NA.  I hear good & bad.  When I hear bad, it's usually because the people find their groups of DOC and stick together like clicks instead of forming a group w/everyone.  But I have heard of PA, Pills anonymous.  Have you?  It's strictly for pill users, and everyone can relate better then being mixed w/other types of users.

Look it up!

[dialectialdarlin]

Thank you for your thoughts.  as to your question, I think he was just curious at the begining he wanted to know what the high felt like.  He has had experiance with other drugs but until I was prescibed I don't think that he had ever had any pain meds.  I have tried putting them under lock and key, but he finds ways around that like finding my key or waiting until I have to have them out like if we are going somewhere, I have to take my meds with me.  the biggest problem I find is that he doesn't see that he has a problem.  after I kicked him out I said he could come back if he went to NA he went once and came home saying he didn't belong there with people who did crack and herione.  I just don't know what to do any more.
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[enemy48]

It's so good to hear that you don't seen to have an addiction problem with your pain medication.  

The question I have is how did your man get started w/taking your medication in the first place?  Was he already experienced with the buzz from painkillers?  Was he once offered one because of a bad headache, or some other pain he had?

It does sound like he definitely has a problem, and coming from an addict like myself, stealing from someone you love is what we do.  You're going to have to keep them under lock and key.

I have a close friend like you.......not abusive to her meds,....but the husband is terrible about stealing from her.  So she purchased a safe specifically for that purpose.  He has his own medications, but because of his addiction, it's never enough.  

The bad news is that if he decides to kick this addiction, it won't be easy for him if he knows that the enemy is in his own house.