she's worse then i thought!!!!!!! now what?

[howcouldshe]

ok...so she just left. here's the story..She told me that she's had a problem with pills for the last two years...wow...i had NOOOO idea!!!! on top of that she told me she's also been taking methadone from her boyfriend for the last year and made me swear not to tell!!! I'm in my first year of medical school and we JUST learned about methadone!! Oh my GOD!!! I feel like she is i hate to say it but she is screwed.  THat is the most potent drug, and has the longest half life of ANY drug. it actually stores itself in a persons bones.    THus her withdrawls could last 1 to 4 months!!! she won't go into rehab for work purposes. she won't tell her family because they are of strict moral etc and very stubborn and narrowminded.  She wants me to help her by locking her up in my apartment and staying with her while she withdraws....i feel like i'm getting caught up in a web of lies. I've seen videos of people withdrawing from methadone and compared them to those coming off of heroine and those on methadone are far worse.  I"m so scared for her. I"m scared to watch her go through it..i dont know what to do? I honestly doubt she can do this on her own.  THere are very few who have quit c/t from it.  If it was just the pain pills such as the dillauded i would do it for her. But the METHADONE Too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! oh my god...this is far worse than i ever imagined.....PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ANd on top of that, I don't mean to sound selfish but i cannot afford to drop medical school to stay with her for the next month or so.....what should i do?

[hopsing94]

Jess how are things going. It's been awhile since i've seen any posts. Hope everything is ok.-John

[tooklastdose]

Just wondering how you gals are doing?

[Curls]

Glad to see you are still doing okay.  Every once in a while someone has the will power to just do it - so I'm hoping it's your friend!  It sounds like she was quite right about her parents.  Is there anyone else she's ever mentioned, an Aunt?  Hope you finally can get some sleep yourself.  All you have is a the anmoungous pain of a migrane - I'd say you are holding up well under the circumstances : ).  Contacting an NA group sounds like a great resource.  Maybe someone can even come in for a few hours and sit with her while you, take a nap, or (if it's possible) study at some point.

[lovebuckets10]

i had a friend that had a sim story, somehow it became our problem to take care of him. I know it sounds like Im being mean but he was our bes tfriend before this ( he was the reason my hubby and I met). I am so sad for your friend b/c I have been through treatment 2x this time did it at home. After days of this I located a treatment center that said yes we will help its was a 3 hour drive. I gave him a **** load of xanax (one of his many favs) and told him I had an ideal, they were waiting on us. We took him n and had already took his wallet, credit cards, ids, cell phone, ect.. he said no way im staying. So we told him how much we loved him (as he told us how much he hated us) Then we explained the nearest pay phone was about 6 miles, he would have to walk there call collect (he did not know any numbers we had the phone) and get someone to come get him, but keep in mind he did not even know what town he was in. OR we would pay for the treatment and he couldn come stay with us when he completed treatment. Well he stayed 6 days at least through the detox, then he left... He said hes not mad but he is just not ready for treatment or to stop. I could not handle it after a couple of days of him telling me he was about to die, I was affraid he might do something. I dont think this will help but other people have tried doing what you are doing. YOUR A GREAT FRIEND!!! please look in to getting her in treatment they meds and drs there to help with it. also maybe try calling a na or aa group they will help you so much!!

[Savas]

Y'know, unless she's taking something still she's actually doing pretty well it sounds. If she's got the energy and coordination to move around...unless she's still got the perc's. That would explain it.

[howcouldshe]

OOPS...sorry...slipped and hit tab then enter.  Anyhow, she is still a complete wreck and it seems as though it is getting worse and worse instead of better.  i talked to a few people who used to do methadone and they say it will continue to get worse until about day 10-14 and then it will stay that way for another week before getting better.  Wow. Sounds pretty much impossible.  Sigh..right now she's on the balcony smoking a cigarette.  She' comes up with the strangest outfits.  She's wearing my snowboarding pants and a tank top.  she says she can't get warm and then suddenly she's perspiring so badly that her hair is matted to her head.  I don't know.  I"m trying to get the house clean and keep active.  i know i'm helping her but i feel SOO unproductive just sitting around with her.  I managed to iron my sheets,(yes i know that's wierd but i like them crisp) and did some laundry.  Now i'm cooking dinner but i doubt she'll touch any of it.  My migrane still has not subsided so I'm thinking of taking some advil here in a minute. other than that nothing new. Her parents still haven't called. I've left 4 messages now and made sure to express them with URGENCY.  (no pun intended)  She on the other hand is still making laps around my coffee table.  She's all over the house. One minute she's in the sunroom tapping her fingers, the next she's picking at the christmas tree, and the next shes' smoking her 20th cigarette. ANd don't get me started on all the bathroom trips.  She's barely drinking and pees every 10 mins. Until we meet again....Love Jess