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What specific skills does anyone do to deal with life without pills?
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For me it is just being positive. I always say Life is What You Make It. And it us just that.
You can either take what happens as an instance, deal with it and move on. Or you can whine and cry and dwell on it till you are miserable always. Then you want to chase the pain away.
People tell me all the time how my life has not been easy and how could I have endured what I did/do and be so content and happy. Why? Because it is just life. You do what you have to do. I have a full time job, 2 young girls, a house and bills to pay. My life is not eventful. Some of my choices have not been good. So you learn, let go and and move on.
I am tapering down on norco. Not bc I use it to get high. Not because I have to have it. I do have alot of pain. But I have come to the point where I would rather deal with the pain than feel sick bc my body doesn't like going without. I don't crave. But I HATE to feel sick. So I will need to just deal with it soon and get rid of the norco. I am almost there to walk off if it. I only take a half a 10mg 3-4 times a day. Too much for me though.
So when you get down and out, think of your blessings. I learned so long ago to be happy with what I have and not care what others have that I don't. Life is What You Make it. It may not be exactly how you want it, but it is your life. The past is the past. Move forward with happiness, calm and stressfree. Message me anytime you need.
Just be happy. It sounds dumb but it is all in your attitude and your thinking. You will find it changes everything.
You can either take what happens as an instance, deal with it and move on. Or you can whine and cry and dwell on it till you are miserable always. Then you want to chase the pain away.
People tell me all the time how my life has not been easy and how could I have endured what I did/do and be so content and happy. Why? Because it is just life. You do what you have to do. I have a full time job, 2 young girls, a house and bills to pay. My life is not eventful. Some of my choices have not been good. So you learn, let go and and move on.
I am tapering down on norco. Not bc I use it to get high. Not because I have to have it. I do have alot of pain. But I have come to the point where I would rather deal with the pain than feel sick bc my body doesn't like going without. I don't crave. But I HATE to feel sick. So I will need to just deal with it soon and get rid of the norco. I am almost there to walk off if it. I only take a half a 10mg 3-4 times a day. Too much for me though.
So when you get down and out, think of your blessings. I learned so long ago to be happy with what I have and not care what others have that I don't. Life is What You Make it. It may not be exactly how you want it, but it is your life. The past is the past. Move forward with happiness, calm and stressfree. Message me anytime you need.
Just be happy. It sounds dumb but it is all in your attitude and your thinking. You will find it changes everything.
After learning very early that you can't trust anyone its so hard to relearn that you can in fact trust ppl. At first in this w/d process I learned that I can't even trust myself. But now I know that I can't trust my addict brain but if I get in touch with my center and god I can trust that. One progress at a time. I have so much to be grateful for and I'm going to try not to waste time on sadness.
nonights, i am glad to hear that what was said in this forum has helped you, because i know how hard it can be sometimes, i find the more i accept that alot of what is said on here is the truth and start to learn to trust others within reason, (it takes time)i am able to let go and surrender the thing that for me holds me back "pride" . It is hard some days living what i say, but i know i must try, because i do feel better emotionally than i ever have in my life, but i do have down days.i am realizing its going to be a ongoing process for life, but its like a puzzle that as long as i keep working recovery by living the things that have been said here i keep finding pieces..
i think the 3 G's thing is Great ashell_ofme especially the gratitude part, because when i think about what i am grateful for it gives me a comforting feeling and it dosent allow me to choose self pity thoughts which has been a problem for me in the past, i am greatful for so much today!
i think the 3 G's thing is Great ashell_ofme especially the gratitude part, because when i think about what i am grateful for it gives me a comforting feeling and it dosent allow me to choose self pity thoughts which has been a problem for me in the past, i am greatful for so much today!
Love this! So glad you brought it back to the forefront :)
Girl, for me, I'm all about the concrete... probably I'm so hard-headed! Something jugglin said like... I make a mistake not once... not twice... but over and over... lol... something to that gist anyhoo! Well, that's ME. So, for me in order to work on APPLYING all of the positive attributes and positive character qualities talked about in this awesome thread... I HAVE to DO some concrete "stuff."
onthefence was right on with the aftercare, aa/na... I finally just started back... duh. Just because I have a little "time" under my belt now doesn't mean I don't need to keep pressing in... DUH!! That's for me. Other things I would add are counseling which I do actively while I can still afford it!! LOL... but things I can DO on my own and are relatively easy... I keep a gratitude list each day. It's concrete. Keeps my mind on the positive every morning even when Life gets lifey. And we all know it does. I also try to journal... although I'm not as good about that one. Hmm... Progress not perfection.
Super easy one. the 3G's - every morning - one goal - one grateful thing - one thing that's good. :) after I read a quick recovery devotional. done and DONE! Concrete and gets my head straight. We did this in rehab and it stuck with me. Loved it then - love it now.
And of course, this forum is an amazing help always... always... thanks for helping to keep me sober today y'all. You've become a new part of my recovery program and I am grateful for you mh.
Girl, for me, I'm all about the concrete... probably I'm so hard-headed! Something jugglin said like... I make a mistake not once... not twice... but over and over... lol... something to that gist anyhoo! Well, that's ME. So, for me in order to work on APPLYING all of the positive attributes and positive character qualities talked about in this awesome thread... I HAVE to DO some concrete "stuff."
onthefence was right on with the aftercare, aa/na... I finally just started back... duh. Just because I have a little "time" under my belt now doesn't mean I don't need to keep pressing in... DUH!! That's for me. Other things I would add are counseling which I do actively while I can still afford it!! LOL... but things I can DO on my own and are relatively easy... I keep a gratitude list each day. It's concrete. Keeps my mind on the positive every morning even when Life gets lifey. And we all know it does. I also try to journal... although I'm not as good about that one. Hmm... Progress not perfection.
Super easy one. the 3G's - every morning - one goal - one grateful thing - one thing that's good. :) after I read a quick recovery devotional. done and DONE! Concrete and gets my head straight. We did this in rehab and it stuck with me. Loved it then - love it now.
And of course, this forum is an amazing help always... always... thanks for helping to keep me sober today y'all. You've become a new part of my recovery program and I am grateful for you mh.
These answers helped me so much and I just reread them and got even more so I thought someone else might need to read em. What amazing ppl we have here at mh
Great thread! Love the life skills you shared, onthefence!!
"acceptance , healthy boundaries, positive self talk, humility, honesty, empathy, patience, active listening, active sharing, asking for and accepting help."
And I loved the life skills you mentioned we "need to lose" too...
"the skills that i need to lose are manipulation , power and control, self pity, perfectionism,,self defeating pride, arrogance"
@Real180......3 cheers for mentioning "WILLINGNESS"!!
I would also add.... having an open mind....being OPEN to new ways~
Wonderful Wisdom ya'll~~~
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"acceptance , healthy boundaries, positive self talk, humility, honesty, empathy, patience, active listening, active sharing, asking for and accepting help."
And I loved the life skills you mentioned we "need to lose" too...
"the skills that i need to lose are manipulation , power and control, self pity, perfectionism,,self defeating pride, arrogance"
@Real180......3 cheers for mentioning "WILLINGNESS"!!
I would also add.... having an open mind....being OPEN to new ways~
Wonderful Wisdom ya'll~~~
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Great posts!!! And great topic .. I mean there is some much knowledge and expertise on this forum... The only thing I want to add and I apologize if it was already written .. A matter of fact I'm sure it was in one way or another but I will post it anyways.. One of the most important skills that WILL get you through WDs, early recovery and long term successful recovery is having WILLINGNESS - WILLINGNESS TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET CLEAN AND STAY CLEAN!!!
All the best...
All the best...
CONGRATULATIONS ON BEING A NON DRUG USER!! YEY!! <3 xxxx
Learning that the present moment is all there is and i an capable of greater things and we are no lesser or greater than each other.
We have to suffer to learn gratitude and just to be and be at peace is way better than being high.
Its no good saying i'm going to try say i am doing and DO IT!! Remembering i am creative, ' looking at everything and feeling blown away that all i see is ME and everyone i see and communicate with is me.
Its better to do something badly than never to have ever done it? They who sit and think about ''Doing it'' or doing NOTHING about it
Create your own reality in your own World you are everything and anything
and keep doing it until you become it. Peace and relaxation are way better than Partying then suffering for what?
Looking at nature and seeing beyond ''Its a tree!!'' it's much more than that. Walking down the road singing an not caring who see's or hears me instead of keeping my head down hoping no one does.
Making a phone call with out OD-ing on pills and booze because ''I need to?? Getting out and getting on even while tapering and it's a big drop,
before i'd stay in my PJ's dying on the couch but i am determined to do everything i can do until the WD's although started i can still ''do'' with out running to take more?
And putting up and not resisting anything bad that the WD's through at me and accepting it's healing. And a lot more. and it's all good and i will lay down and ride it out and be glad for it. Love Tswana xxxx
Learning that the present moment is all there is and i an capable of greater things and we are no lesser or greater than each other.
We have to suffer to learn gratitude and just to be and be at peace is way better than being high.
Its no good saying i'm going to try say i am doing and DO IT!! Remembering i am creative, ' looking at everything and feeling blown away that all i see is ME and everyone i see and communicate with is me.
Its better to do something badly than never to have ever done it? They who sit and think about ''Doing it'' or doing NOTHING about it
Create your own reality in your own World you are everything and anything
and keep doing it until you become it. Peace and relaxation are way better than Partying then suffering for what?
Looking at nature and seeing beyond ''Its a tree!!'' it's much more than that. Walking down the road singing an not caring who see's or hears me instead of keeping my head down hoping no one does.
Making a phone call with out OD-ing on pills and booze because ''I need to?? Getting out and getting on even while tapering and it's a big drop,
before i'd stay in my PJ's dying on the couch but i am determined to do everything i can do until the WD's although started i can still ''do'' with out running to take more?
And putting up and not resisting anything bad that the WD's through at me and accepting it's healing. And a lot more. and it's all good and i will lay down and ride it out and be glad for it. Love Tswana xxxx
these are the skills i am working on, and will be for the rest of my life, what is big for me is realizing i am going to make mistakes, i am human, and to move past them, and not dwell on them or overreact to them. the skills that i need to lose are manipulation , power and control, self pity, perfectionism,,self defeating pride, arrogance, i think as long as i am honestly working on the positive skills it helps keep my mindset in the right place, recovery for me has been a long journey (process) with some setbacks, and faith plays a big part, i feel everything will work out and try not to overreact like i use to, it takes time, first detox then changing thought process.....and utilizing all tools available , aftercare , aa/na not isolating, trying to have open mind, looking at things from all angles....
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