The "irregardless" scenario is simple: The suffix "less" means without, so when we write regardless, it means without regard.
The prefix "ir" means "not", so if you were to write irregard, it is not even a word.
But--to write IRREGARDLESS means you are using double negatives, before AND after the word, which, of course is redundant. Hence, regardless is the way to go. Just my 2 cents.. ;-) peazy
The insurance companies check out your refil history (because they are paying I guess) and report it to the doctors. I'm looking for my red flag report .... I was joking about big brother ...
Hey Jim - I've been wondering about ya! Last time you posted you were going out to celebrate your birthday....I was worried you might have "self-destructed"...smile. Don't beat yourself up, buddy - everyone with substance abuse problems have wasted part of our lives - but hey - we still have the rest of our life in front of us. I'm struggling too, but trying SO hard to have a positive outlook. In the past few years, I've run up my credit cards to an embarrassing level, alienated family and friends, and throughout have had my head in the JD bottle and pill bottle to try to numb the fear and pain of everyday life. I have taken steps, although very small ones, to try to do better. I'm still scared and struggling, but one step at a time, I've started to get my life back. I really believe that abusers, such as you and I, have more than usual sensitive feelings towards things, that lead us to abuse to numb those intense feelings. Maybe some people just "feel" things more than most, and it's hard to handle - therefore, we medicate...smile. I'm glad to see you back posting; please don't go away - your good heart and experience benefits all of us. Have a great weekend. Love, Lisabet
I guess that's where we differ...unmanagable yes, powerless no!
Choice is empowerment. You and I weren't powerless when it came to taking drugs, why should we be powerless when it comes to stopping and staying stopped.
As for honesty...you can't lie to yourself. I proved to my family, my friends, my physicians, and my pastor how empowered I was. I told them everything!
Prove to my scientific mind how a "disease" like addiction continues to progress after a person stops using. The definition of progression states "moving forward or onward, advancing". You mean to tell me that my drug addiction is "advancing" even after I have stopped using for 5, 10 or 20 years.
I need not worry or forget "where I came from". The destruction, pain and re-building of my life after drugs will always be there.
As for being humble and teachable. I don't need a room full of people to remind of that. Everytime I open the Bible or pray to God is the only reminder I need on the subject of humility.
Being an "addict" is a part of WHAT I was. I once had cancer at an early age and that too was a part of WHAT I was.
What strikes me as confusing is your statement "Unfortunately, until we recover from this affliction". But I thought (by NA standards) that addiction will always be there and continue to progress. If that be the case, how can recovery ever take place?
Don't get me wrong...If the "program" works for you then I salute your sobiety, your hardwork and your determination. But a blanket statement that NA is a program to love because it works doesn't apply to all of us. It works for some of us. Re-affirmation after re-affirmation of a destructive behavior is not my idea of recovery. Self responsibility of one's choices and behaviors, and that includes the work and strength to stay clean empowers individuals and doesn't label one as powerless.
But, as my father once said..."Opinions are like assholes, we all have one and they all stink".
Peace
Kilo
Hi Peaz - I appreciate your post above. You definitly give one "food for thought"....you have my respect. It's posts such as yours and others that help give insight into my own recovery. Love you, and have a great weekend. Lisabet
Speaking blindly, having never tried NA (but having researched it endlessly in literature and on the net),I can reiterate it is.. BUNK BUNK BUNK. (an escape goat)
Years ago, I tried AA, 'tho alcohol was not my problem. I, in addition to all Peaz eloquently stated, and you as well, Kilo.. might also add that those peeps in AA seemed cliquish, cultish and additionally an ooooooh so verrrry needy, clawing clinging group.
(complete w/ robotic rituals)
In desperation, I soon investigated RR (Rational Recovery) which is what you two are seemingly touting. It has elements of Smart Recovery, maybe even a twin. Regardless (note irregardless is non-standard English. I am a Grammar Nazi at heart, a kind one), I am glad to read intelligent pieces exposing the sham of AA. ~