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[topper42099]

i am stunned by your responses and yes oxy is rite and she knows already just she doesnt know about the lasting affects....whatever they may be since i am two months clean.......i withdrew slowly for two years till i knew i would be safe to quit.....she and i only met after i quit and she wants to understand........she uses the phrase "we got to fix you"...we all know the withdr.'s and the sick...how do i do this...i havnt been in a relationship where i cared like this in so long and i dont want to jeapordize it. also i think the fact she wants to know speaks loudly for her.  most people dont want to know..."ignorance is bliss , right?" so...more advice is gladly welcomed and thank u all...for those who are beginning the withdr....my prayers to you and yours and remember you can do this.........you can ......i did.......always know u have it in your soul and always did!!!!!! its very rewarding in the long run...and i could not stand hearing that once upon a time but this is true...sincerely, topper

[swtbreezie]

hi topper,
I know for me 10 days seems like forever off meds.  BUT, it almost caused me to lose the most precious gift God ever gave me besides my childrenm my guy and my life neither was worth them.  I am NOT willing to do that.  The meds destroyed my life as I knee it for 37 years, it will nt EVER do that to me again, I  Chose to live not exist as I was a pilled out zombie that had no one after I lost hubby and babygirl.  Trust me topper if you have someone special in your life never let them go because of any addiction.  I was worth getting clean a million times over.

[oxyaddict420]

If she means that much, and she is curious about wanting to know about it, then my suggestion is to just be honest.  If you have to sugar coat the truth to make it sound different than what it is, then you are just basically starting a relationship on lies right?  From the sounds of it, that is not what you want because you care about her.. So my opinion is just to be honest in every way you know how to be, and if she truly cares for you as much as you care for her then she will stick by your side no matter what right?

Plus, it is not like she can fault you for an addiction that was caused my a methadone.  Not to mention that you had what it took to get off of it and stay clean! Thats all pretty amazing, and I would be in a hurry to get that off my chest to someone I love. Look at it as a positive thing, not a negative thing..Because that is what it is A POSTITIVE CHANGE IN YOU LIFE FOR THE BETTER!  MORE POWER TO YOU!