The doctor is right. And you must not just live by the rules, you must learn to believe in them.
Be absolutely honest with yourself, and you'll know what you need to do.
Hi jessicagrace, I do agree with the doctor that there is more to your story then meets the eye and that does have to be recognized by you but he failed to mention there is help out there to help control your pain better and your depression.
You should find a good chronic pain therapist. One that can help control your pain along with a compassionate ear. Sounds like you are in depression and need of good sound advice and maybe an anitdepressant medicine along with therapy. If you are suicidal at any time, please call 1-800-suicide. They have trained professionals there 24x7 that can help you through whatever suicidal thoughts you might be having.
Most of all TALK to someone you can trust (preferrably a licensed therapist), do some self introspection and research for yourself what chronic pain and depression can do to you and your family!
I have to think that it would take more than a narcotic prescription to get the courts to take a girl from her mother. I have talked to people in similar situations-- and there are usually other parts of the story that they leave out-- sometimes they can't even see them! I recommend that you find a person who you trust, and do the very hard task of asking the person to tell you what they see that may have led to the loss of your daughter. There simply has to be more.
If you want to make a serious effort to turn your life around, you do that by living by the rules-- without exception. You don't take Suboxone unless it is prescribed for you, and then you do exactly what is instructed, to the letter. The fact that you can rationalize 'taking a little suboxone here and there' suggests that you live by a different standard; realize that most people wouldn't think of taking a non-prescribed medication! Yes, addicts do all the time-- but non-addicts never do. For one thing, it is against the law... and the courts MIGHT remove a daughter from a person who does not think that the law applies to her.
In recovery, much is made about 'rigorous honesty'. That is because addicts see everything as 'gray' when it comes to rules; there is always a reason to do what is the easiest, rather than following the rules that the rest of society follow. If you follow the rules, everything else is connected and will follow-- things like self esteem, happiness, success... but you first must 'get right' with yourself.