I need help/advice

[scorpio1169]

My boyfriend is a heroin addict. He just checked out of rehab after being there a few hrs. He is on his way to my house. He needs to go back. What do I do? Do I ignore him? He is not thinking straight and we are also under a tornado watch. It is bad out. I dont want him here. He is supposed to be detoxing.

[Julia M Aharonov, DO]

There is very little you can do. The only choices you can make are for yourself, not for him. You can leave or not let him back in. You can not make him want to get clean. An addict's drive to use is often much stronger than any relationship: lover, wife, even child. You must decide for yourself if you are willing to be a third party in that relationship.
I am so very sorry to be so blunt, but it is too often that the heroin comes out the winner. You must take care of yourself first and foremost. Good luck to you.

[atthebeach]

hello I am sorry no one saw this post earlier. I also saw your post on the other forum when he went into the rehab.
what happened? did he come over?
when they are detoxing their body and mind are in a frenzy. it wants
drugs. they have to fight very hard mentally to not use.
I am sorry he left rehab.  I am also sorry about his family.
you did the right thing involving them and letting them know what was
happening with him.
please know you are not alone.
please update us.
praying for you both,
Debbie