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Welcome to this site and thanks so much for your post.
You should seek an opinion on this from a professional.
If you do have an alcohol problem then you have to want to get better for yourself primarily. Your wif,e of course, is an important person in this decision but you have to want it for you most of all.
Please continue to look into this matter and best of luck moving forward.
We are not doctors on this forum so can only give you our advise. My advise is you see a doctor or therapist. They will ask you questions like, do you drink everyday? how much do you ever black out? do you wake up in the morning and drink? do you get the shakes or throw up when you have not had a drink for a while? Good luck. I think deep down you know if you have a problem and the fact that you are on this forum is a good sign you may think you want to change your habits. Good luck!!