my boyfriend is an alcohoacklic that relapsed?

[daisygirl666]

iv been with my boyfriend for the past 10 months. he makes me so happy and is so good to me. our relationship was basically perfect. he told me at first he didnt drink because he didnt like the person alcohol made him. but he never made a big deal. he went to aa. a month ago he called me at work and told me he had a drink. i was dissappointed but at that time didnt understand what an alcoholic was. we had some drink together and he just became super weird and passed out. the next nite i asked him if he was drinking and he said no. he was lying. he was at a bar and went back to my house and almost burned it down amongst other things. i told him the next day i didnt like who he became after he put alcohol in his body and i thought it was a good idea he went back to his sobriety. he agreed then went into my bathroom and overdosed on heroin i found him practically dead. called 911 and did cpr. saved his life. at that point all i cared was he was alive. he promised no more drug or drinking. i told him i would leave him cause he basically put me through hell. he was sober and back in aa for 3 weeks he had a beer last nite and i could smell it on him he lied repeatidally saying he didnt drink i knew he was lying. he admited it this morning and i broke up with him. what do i do??? i love this man soooo much. but i dont trust him? what do i do? he again promised no more but i have a hard time believing him. i feel helpless.

[dominosarah]

Sounds like the honeymoon stage is over and reality stepped in.  There is nothing you can do to change his behavior.  The only thing you can do is change yours.  If you continue in this relationship you are setting yourself up for alot of heartbreak.  I am a recovering alcoholic and addict so i know what we are capable of doing to a loved one.  Get into some sort of aftercare program and take care of yourself.  I hope he finds his way soon.  Heroin and alcohol are deadly all by themselves let alone mixing the 2.   sara

[ibizan]

heroin is just not a one time drug......i've read ur post and this guy is really pulling the wool over ur eyes.....don't be blind in love for u will go thru much more torture....get urself to Al-Anon and find a good counselor...u really need to learn how to set limits with this type of behavior!