My 2 cyberrecovery friends here have given awesome advice......as usual!:)the only thing i can add is to attend some Al-Anon meetings....u r in dire need of them!
Very good advice Rachel and I agree.
Moonfacestal You should know that he is needing you more now than ever. Support is a crucial part of rehabilitation. Your support and encouragement will be vital to his success. He is the father of your child, so if you really love him then why can’t you stick around and find out if he can do it. Is there a reason you can't leave him if he doesn't succeed?
If you fear for the safety of yourself and your son then I would recommend you find your way out but if this isn't the case then it could really have a happy ending that your hoping for..What more can the guy do right?
Good luck and best wishes.
Randy
Hello
Your post is a difficult one to give advice as I think you are the only one that can choose what to do. You say your boyfriend went into rehab of his own choice so that is a positive sign that he wants to change. You say he is the only guy you have ever loved and you have a son with him. I can understand that you are frightened of committing yourself to his recovery for nine months and then it not working out. If you leave him now yes you may risk loosing him forever even if he does get sober and stays sober.
I can understand how confused you must be, however do you really have to commit either way right now, can you give yourself more time to think whilst your boyfriend is in rehab. When you are emotionally charged, confused and you don't know what to do, the saying goes don't do anything until you can think clearer.
My boyfriend committed to me getting sober and I have been clean for nearly 3 months and life could not be better, however we take my sobriety one day at a time.
I hope I have helped you a little, please post again if you feel the need there is a lot of good people that use this forum and offer support and advice.
Hope you find your way.
Take care, Rachel