Lost

[Lyn0911]

I've been married now for 5yrs, together almost 11. My husband and I have 2 young girls. His drinking over the last few years has gotten excessive to say the least. It started with pills after his mom died. He kept that a secret for awhile. Now its beer. Beer from the time he gets home from work till he falls asleep at night. I didn't notice for a LONG TIME how bad it was. I'd make excuses. Now it's hit me. He'll admit it he has a problem occasionally, then if i try to talk he denys it. He doesn't want help, counseling, marriage counseling, etc...nothing. He openly drinks in front of us, but tries to hide it too. Like sneaking a beer before we leave to go somewhere. He's disconnected from mine and our daughters lives. He'd rather go "stunting" motorcycles in a parking lot somewhere with his buddies. He spends countless dollars on beer weekly. He's never been physically abusive. But our lives suck otherwise. When he's around and actually engaged he's wonderful, but that's RARE!!! It feels like us girls are already living our own lives, separate. I want to leave but I feel like I'm letting HIM down, which I know is just RIDICULOUS!!! I don't know what I'm holding on to? I just feel angry towards him.

[ibizan]

YES!You just rock Tink!I sooooooooooooo agree!

[TTinKKerBBell]

You might tell Him that You have decided to live an alcohol free life - and then if He chooses alcohol over a life with You and His Daughters, well then (in my opinion), HE is letting YOU down ! AND His Beautiful Daughters as well !!