Anxiety and links to masturbation over time?

[calikid916]

Hello Readers,

    I'm 25 years old and I find myself with lots of Anxiety. I'm not a 100% sure what Anxiety is but for me its I always feel scared and paranoid.Not like paranoid and scared Im going to die stuff like I read posts about. Its the STUPID anxiety where im afraid of doing the simplest of tasks , mainly when it comes to socializing with others. Well not always but alot of the time. For example, In the morning im driving to work, I feel scared walking into my job. Who will I see , what will they say? Can i respond without sounding like a complete idiot? Can I look them in the eyes? Put my sun glasses on. I dont want ppl to see me seeing them. I just feel incredibly anti-social at times around ppl , ppl i see everyday that I SHOULDNT feel anxiety around. Why does this happen to me? is it anxiety? Ive been asking myself these questions for the last 2-3 years or so. BTW i never used to be like this. In highschool i was the loud very social kid. And recently it hit me. I have been a "compulsive" masturbater for a very long time now. By the time I was 16 or so it was a daily routine. Looking at porn on the internet. Masturbating several times a day . Now , im 25... and still do it at least once a day(ya i know pathetic). It has gotten so bad I think thats why when I have sex with a woman once i get the condom on I cant even go 5 min without losing my erection.Then recently I stopped for 2 days, I felt stronger , I felt like i wasnt afraid of ppl. I could look my boss right in the eyes and say good morning without even putting any thought into it. For the ppl reading this that problem sounds stupid as it would sound stupid to me when I was 18 and "normal". Does masturbating alter the chemicals in my brain if done over long periods of time? I always here ppl say Ohhh ya masturbation is healthy its normal. But is it really if done on a daily basis for nearly a decade (10 years). They say its unhealthy if it interferes with my daily routine. But it doesnt effect my daily routine... I go to work , pay my taxes, hang out with friends and family. It only effects my daily routine if im always paranoid and antisocial due to some lack of chemicals in my brain from masturbating too much?Is what i described even anxiety? why am i so anti-social ? I dont take any medication. My social behavior and mind of thought frustrates me. Any comments? Sorry for all the questions. Thanks for listening

[silverberg]

first I would ask you to read your post you may not realize it but yo answered allot of your own questions, read it again (even if you have to pretend your reading a post from someone else).
As for masturbation do it as much as you please! it will not harm you in anyway! BUT, yes here comes the BUT...again I say you already answered this one, if you have more energy then you want the 5min of pleasure (blank #'s a day) or the feelings you get from slowing down? that is totally up to you, I can tell you for myself if I maturbate or sex or both to much I get tired, just like everyone else! I think you may be mistaking less times maturbating with more energy, which gives you STRENGHTH to look your boss in the eyes etc. As for the porn (everything in moderation) try using your imagination and maybe thing of your sig. other, this may help with losing your erection. by the way I don't know a man alive who has not lost a erection, once or twice, except for me. LOL. take care and good luck!

[MrGreen]

From reading posts on here alone I think compulsive masturbation seems to make people feel guilty. They imagine they have committed the big sin. That might lead to social problems. You never know. You have this imaginary guilt about masturbation and it might make people shy away from others. Be it for fear that they will know. But I would guess just the guilt alone could make a person feel down. Feeling down draws people back into their shell. Yes there is the energy side of things too. You have experiemented and found when you stopped you felt better. Maybe even try to cut it down to two times a week and see how you feel. We will call it a science experiement. ( LOL ) That way there should be no guilt attached to what you are doing.

[greenlydia]

First off, let's back the "choke the chicken" bus up and get one thing straight. Masturbating on a daily basis is NOT excessive nor is it "pathetic!" You're a 25 y/o man with a healthy sex drive. If you do not have a significant other to have sexual intercourse with on a regular basis, then masturbating is a normal, healthy release. It has NOT screwed up the chemicals in your brain! If anything, it would keep you more relaxed than most of us!
When you have relations with a woman, you say that you lose your erection within 5 minutes. Sounds like simple "performance anxiety," which has nothing whatsoever to do with your daily masturbation. You have proven to yourself that there is nothing wrong with your "equipment," so there IS something going on when you get the "real meal deal." This is a very personal question and I don't expect you to answer it here in front of God and everybody, but how often do you actually GET that real meal deal? If the answer is seldom or very infrequently, I'd think about that performance anxiety I talked about.  What do YOU think happens? What are you thinking/feeling? And maybe that's your answer right there............maybe you're totally overthinking everything instead of just being in the moment? Carpe diem, dude! Lose the guilt. There is none.
As to your social anxiety, you say you've been asking yourself these questions for the past 2-3 years. Huh!? And you've not spoken to your doctor about this rather "sudden" problem since you say you were more or less the class clown. Are you trying to tie this all together in a neat little book titled "Look Where Daily Masturbation Got ME!"
Not being able to look folks in the eye, being paranoid about what they're thinking, not wanting them to "see" YOU............I'm no psychiatrist by a long shot, but I think you're getting your knickers in a huge knot here over basically nothing. Perhaps a bit of "social anxiety" which is highly treatable.
I would suggest a visit to your doctor and have a very open and honest discussion with him about everything you've told us. He may want you to see a urologist to rule out any physical reason your flag goes to half mast during the real thing. Personally I think a wee bit of therapy would go a long way to help you understand what is really going on.
Peace
Greenlydia