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My older son doesn't respect me nor talks to me
How can I get my older son to talk to me again?
Knowing the age of your son would help, but I'm guessing he's an adult. If you don't know why he's not talking to you, then write to him asking why? Explain that you love and miss him and don't won't this wedge between the two of you to continue. If he doesn't respond, give him his space and some time.....a chance to miss you and realize that he wants you in his life. We do the best we can with our kids, and once they're grown we have to hope for the best. If you don't don't "why" he's not talking, tell him in a letter that you deserve to know that much. Then if he does tell you, do what is necessary to make amends...that's all you can do. He does still love you no matter what, and with time will start remembering the good times growing up. I know this is very painful and I hope you can resolve any issues the two of you have. Sharing what you feel may be the cause would help us to help you. We're always here for you.
How old is he?
I have four boys...spread out pretty far in age.
They seem to go through stages.
You say that he doesn't respect you...is there a reason "in his eyes" why he should or shouldn't?
Have you done something "unspeakable" to him? Such as steal his car or drive his "girl" away from him? If so then it's really up to him when he's going to be ready.
You can try talking to him, but if he doesn't respond it may be that he's unable to, or doesn't know what to say?
Did you have a big fight? Did you forget to buy him a pony when he was 5?
Try to think back to when this all started and ask yourself in all honesty if it was somehow your fault to begin with. If so, then start by apologizing...you're the "adult" so it's your responsibility to make amends if you started it.
If he started it, then perhaps he's too ashamed to face you.
If none of these apply, think in other directions...has he started doing drugs/drinking?
Is he busy with a new wife/gf/baby?
I'm truly sorry, but it's hard to know what to say unless we know your full story.
I have four boys...spread out pretty far in age.
They seem to go through stages.
You say that he doesn't respect you...is there a reason "in his eyes" why he should or shouldn't?
Have you done something "unspeakable" to him? Such as steal his car or drive his "girl" away from him? If so then it's really up to him when he's going to be ready.
You can try talking to him, but if he doesn't respond it may be that he's unable to, or doesn't know what to say?
Did you have a big fight? Did you forget to buy him a pony when he was 5?
Try to think back to when this all started and ask yourself in all honesty if it was somehow your fault to begin with. If so, then start by apologizing...you're the "adult" so it's your responsibility to make amends if you started it.
If he started it, then perhaps he's too ashamed to face you.
If none of these apply, think in other directions...has he started doing drugs/drinking?
Is he busy with a new wife/gf/baby?
I'm truly sorry, but it's hard to know what to say unless we know your full story.
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