Try this experiment: Remove your brain -that's right! Put it over here on this table. Good. Now, go to some place in the house or work that makes you feel depressed.
Aha! Didn't feel anything this time, did you? That proves it -your BRAIN has something to do with it. OK, put your brain back in, and try this: tell me all about what your work and your work place is like. Well, not really, but just pretend you are going to tell me.
Feel a tinge of the D, don't you?
I think we need to take your brain in for questioning.
I'm not trying to poke you with a stick, here, Autumn, I'm really not. But what I AM trying to do is sort of give credit -where credit is due. And I'll bet that if you move into a house that's like the one you're in now, or get a job in a place that's like what you have now, that touch of the D will come back to you.
This is good news, because it means that some of the work can be done inside you to come to terms with the situation. And I'm by no means suggesting that you should deliberately embed yourself in situations which you know will be a downer. In fact, I would suggest just the opposite -that you gravitate to whatever gets your feel good juice a pumpin'. I say this because if we are going to overcome ANY mental challenge, sometimes it is very helpful to avoid those places or people or environments which makes us work so hard simply to keep our heads above water that we don't have the energy to swim to shore. But at the same time, once we are relieved of the immediate problem, we would do well to think about how we got to feeling so badly in the first place. And that's a conversation with yourself -and, hopefully, a therapist who can guide us along.
And part of that self-chat is asking just what it is about any particular place or person that yanks our chain. The place ITSELF is not embued with any black magic, but it does, for whatever reason, EVOKE a feeling in us. Why? You don't need to tell me, but you need to think about it, and if you think about enough, you'll figure it out, and if you figure it out, you'll be able to work on it, and if you work on it, you'll be able to go back to ... you get the idea.
Whaddya think?
yeah i deffo understand what your sayin, my local shop is so busy and the people that work there are so slow i HATE going in there and if im on one i`ll drive 2 miles to the next shop cause i feel i will have a panic attack, but on the other hand sometimes if im feelin brave i make myself go in and que up and when i come out i feel so happy like i have really achieved somethin......crazy eh?
In my experience this is definitely the case. I dealt with health anxiety, so whenever I go to the doctors, I actually cringe and feel very anxious to the point that I do not want to be there because it reminds me of where I once turned to when I thought I had a physical problem. So, yes your surroundings have a lot to do with how you feel. Remember, with this as in life, there will be ups and downs. I try to focus on the long term instead of the short term as much as I can. Think of you have been and how far you have come. Don't try to forget about it; it is a part of you and it has made you stronger and probably a much more well rounded person. Keep your head up!