I have been "doing" paxil and buspar for a long time now. I do struggle with weight occasionally, but if I continue to eat healthy and not "gorge" myself I stay at a good weight.
If I can give my honest opinion, I would DEFINITELY choose my meds over my weight anyday! If the med worked, I would just get more exercise and eat less to maintain a good weight.
I would suggest that you USE WHAT WORKS! Not all meds work the same.
Just my 2 cents!
I was on Effexor XR for many months and did not gain any weight.
Wellbutrin is one that typically has the "less weight gain" appeal (in fact many lose weight on it), but many complain of the jitters and insomnia with Wellbutrin. I didn't like because it made me nervous and gave me palpitations (skipped heart beats). Lexapro was the exact oppostite (felt like I'd been tranqulized). Prozac made me feel car sick, but I didn't gain weight on it - lost weight in fact. If you do go on an anti-anxiety like Valium, Xanax, Ativan, those are very effective for anxiety but can have tolerance / dependence issues. Buspar is much less likely to have tolerance issues and is effective for many.
lol on the wine. Yep, it always seemed to help when I used to drink.