I don't ever talk about this with anyone. After the A Fib incident I felt maybe getting it off my chest so to speak would help me a little. I think it did. Maybe because I have never really verbalized it to anyone and kept it inside all this time has not been good. It felt good to release some of it. You are in a somewhat similar situation with your wife so you identified a little with it. I do walk 30 minutes each day but by myself. Like I said before I am going to endeavor to get some help and am certainly going to try and go to church. Thank you so much for your input. It is really appreciated. I hope your wife is getting the help she needs. But most important of all she has you.
I got your note, thank you.
It sounds like you are on the right track.
The best way I now to make friends is to find one or more interests, then join in something that focuses on that interest. Some ideas/examples:
Bird Watching, Hiking, Cards/games, movies, books, exercise.... all of these things are offered in all communities. I think the first step is to develop and interest, it can be mostly questions, but a true interest. Then join a group "doing" that and you'll find yourself taking with one or more and getting even more interested and developing friends.
I'd recommend staying away from your "life story" with new friends... save that for a doctor, minister, or other person who deals with your pain. My wife sees a psychiatrist and has worked with a psychological counseling. She has not had a hard life in the context you have told us about, but she suffers nonetheless. Aging doesn't help either, so get ahead of that "curve" now at the young age of 60. We're older.
I did survive it. Sometimes I find strength in that. I am going to try and seek some help. I want to go out and do things again. I retired at 60 after 40 years of working. Never was able to really make any friends...I tried. Just never developed the social skills. But I made sure my children did. My daughter owns her own business and my son is a math and physics teacher. They are my pride. I have two wonderful grandchildren from my son...Elizabeth who is 6 years old and baby Ethan Wayne who is almost two months old. Just got back from a visit with them with my daughter. They live pretty far away. But I will visit as often as I am able.
I want to go to church...maybe after I get some help I will be able to. Thank you for responding...and for your empathy. I really did not expect any responses. It was so horrific I know folks do not know what to say.
Sometimes it just helps to write it down...get it out so to speak. If someone reads it and is driven to give to anti-child abuse organizations, more the better. Thanks again for your kindness.
I'm sure others have read but have nothing to say/advise.
The fact that you survived is testimony to your strength physically and mentally.
You have your children, any grandchildren?, and that and friends (there some out there but you have to go out, get involved, look) are your best path to some level of happiness. Most areas have a Senior Center (free, paid by local taxes) that is a place to met other people 60 and over. How about church? I am not a church goer myself, but it seem to be a big help to many people.
Be well, and go out and get involved in with people in productive and recreational activities... volunteer work at the Hospital is an idea, assuming you have the "spare" time.