My sister is sad, cries all the time because of break Up.. Urgent Help

[Rup5]

My sister was very attached to this guy who initially made her feel that she is only one in her life, when she finally was emotionally attached to him, he made her feel that she is incompetent of the relationship and is egoistic in return just shattering her self confidence. He used to talk to her on his own terms, once or twice vanished and then again appeared apologizing. And now that I got to know about all of this I askes to leave him. Initially my sister was hesitant, but gradually she saw that she is being emotionally used. Also now she doesn't want to be with him but is not able to get over him. She has lost her confidence, is not able to study, is crying maximum times, every morning she cries and is vomiting out of stress. At times she says she is ready to go back, at least he would be around. Also she says that he has moved on I am not able to move on, I am stuck and she is sad almost all the time.  This has been going since last year. But for around 2-3 months me and her friends are not letting her talk to that guy. And she blaming herself for everything. Please Help! Do you think I need to get some medical help? What should I do?

[Rup5]

Thank you for the advice.. do you think group counseling could be of some help ?

[nursegirl6572]

Oh, and I think getting her medical attention for the GI issues is a good idea too.  Just drinking water is NOT enough...she will possibly end up with some issues as a result...not to mention the longer that goes on, the more it will affect how she feels emotionally.

[nursegirl6572]

Oh I strongly disagree with the above statement:

"she will have to learn to deal with it meds and counseling are for disorders not breakups "

The REASON someone is feeling depressed or anxious is irrelevant...if a person isn't coping, and after some time has passed, it's time to seek out some professional help.

I think you should encourage your sister to talk to someone, like a therapist, to help her work through these feelings of grief and loss that she's experiencing, and also to explore her self esteem issues.

If she won't do it, you cannot really force her too...hopefully with some gentle encouragement and loving support, she'll agree it's a good idea as well.

Best of luck...hope she is able to move on soon!

[Kermit the Hermit]

its a phase and life

she will have to learn to deal with it meds and counseling are for disorders not breakups

not trying to minimize it but we all have it and we all have our own degrees of how bad it gets and how long is lasts

do what your doing be by her side her support and helping her stay away and start over your a good sister thats the medicine thats going to work

get her out play music find ways to calm the stress so she can keep food down make sure she at least has lots of water not pop or anything water

with water a day or so of not eating much will be fine

trust me she will come around

good luck