Nervous

[boogiefly]

Hello, I wanted to know if anyone else has this problem.  I have had this problem for years, since I was about 4.  Basically situations that normally don't make people nervous, make me nervous.  Like going out to eat, and driving.  I haven't even gotten my driver's license and I am 30.  Its embarrassing.  Anyway, when I get nervous or anxious, I feel like someone is choking me, so I gag.  This is very embarrassing to say the least, but I want to know how to get rid of that.  Sometimes I get nervous to do things I have done over and over again.  The only thing that stops me feeling that nervous is going to the bathroom and gagging a few times and then it goes away.  I shouldn't have to live like this.  My doctor's have previously diagnosed me with anxiety, but I was having anxiety because I screwed up my relationship, and lied about it, then I came clean and it went away, but the old anxiety is still there.  The only thing I can think of that caused that was because my uncle molested me, but that was when I was 4 til I was 8.  I moved in with my dad at 14, so the anxiety should have went away, but it just doesn't.  I wished that when I get nervous I could just have sweaty palms, but I just gag, and feel all sad.  I don't get it.  Can some shed some light.

[mammo]

Call your insurance company and see if they require you to have a referral.  If not, you find a reputable psychiatrist and just make an appt.  It's good if you know someone who has experience with one and can recommend that one. Make sure you feel comfortable with the one you choose, if not, find another.  Take care.....

[boogiefly]

How do you get a referral to see a phyciatrist.  I know my insurance covers it, but other than that, I don't know what to do.

[RubyWitch]

You have lived through a horrible and traumatic event, and you HAVE figured out exactly what that was. It is THAT which is now causing all these issues and anxiety in your adult life. I would strongly urge you to seek professional help as I believe you are finally ready to face what was done to you.
You said it perfectly yourself..........you should NOT have to live like this and the good news is that you don't.
Please get a referral to a good psychiatrist who will begin to put your life back together for you. It will not be an easy journey, nor a short one, and you will never get back what was stolen from you, but eventually you will be whole again.
How do I know? Because I walked the same path.
Know that my heart goes out to you.
We are always here..........write anytime you need to.
Warmly and with peace
Greenlydia