Stress stress and more stress

[AnxiousGurl]

I dont know what to do...IM STRESSED OUT.. I go to the doctors on friday. I have to get a blood test and im just so nervous about that. Plus my mom is sick, and always in tremendous chronic pain, im worried about her health, I have to get a new job soon, so im busy looking for a new job, i want to work with children and I made a professional profile loooking for a job in that field and someone contacted me asking if im interested in watching their 4 month old baby, which I would love but I dont know these people they live at least 20-25 minutes away and not in the BEST area but not in the worst part. My BF says you shouldnt watch someones kids who you dont know, which he has a good point- PLUS i dont need anymore anxiety (seeing its not in the safest place in town), but I already responded back saying im interested and they want to meet me TODAY. so I dont want to sound bad and back out, should I just meet them and then tell them with with the traveling distance and cost of gas and area its just not for me, sorry. And my family is weird, they barely call and when they do its like its because they feel they have to, like their not genuine...my mom was in the hospital for a week, and THEN my aunt calls all of a sudden yesterday she NEVER EVER called us. AND im looking for my father who ive never met.. I sent an email to (who im almost positive IS)him.... and its been almost a week and NO response, I sent it to his business email which im sure he checks frequently, he used to send me stuff up until age 4 or 5 and then just stopped, I found out he coincedently got married just shortly after he stopped all contact, so im assuming he moved on with his life and doesnt want a relationship..i really dont know what to think i just want to know either way. IM JUST STRESSED out and I feel my anxiety has shot up tremendously. I need some support!! I feel alone, my one friend I feel like doesnt so much understand and if I say something not in the right context in her eyes she corrects me and I just feel stupid and she always puts her two sense in, then my other friend has her own problems and calls me and talks about herself the whole time. I FEEL ALONE. I just want someone to hear me out and give me some genuine advice and support.!!!!!I HATE THIS FEELINGGGGGG

[AnxiousGurl]

Thanks...........I canceled the appointment for that job..and just told that im going to have to say no....i contacted my father via email...and that seems to be going good so far!!!. and everything seems to be ok for right now..ive talked to the doc's about my mom. When I brought her to the ER because she was in so much pain...the doctor seemed really cold-hearted did NOTHING for her except give her the same med she takes. His words were "There are 2 kinds of trauma's here" Meaning my moms was not the serious kind. He refused to do an MRI and was just a jerk. She found some relief this week thank goodness and realized if she misses her cymbalta dose it throws her for a loop. I go to the doctors the end of this week, I am going to talk to her about going into therapy.

Thanks for listening!

[snoozies43]

as far as your job interview...let them know that after thinking on it it would not be in your best interest at this time. And wish them well in finding a good caretaker.

as far as your father that is a tough position. However, it sounds like you have done alot in trying to contact him. I am surely no doctor ..but i am sure this is part of your stress. Have you thought about possible therapy on how to deal with this? My mother left when we were 18, and we did have a fairly decent relationship built after some therapy for myself. It took time. I am just saying..i now know that i have to let go of her at times for my own well being. all what you are experiencing is not easy for sure.

Sorry to hear your mother isn't well, i would cal your council on ageing, perhaps they can direct you to a support group?

Best wishes keep us posted......

[Beewoman]

It sounds like you have a lot happening to you at the moment, too many things at once will feed your anxiety and make you feel worse and then you get into the familiar vicious circle.
My advice to you is to first of all cancel this appointment you had today by phone, if you already that you don't want this job there is not point in going to the interview and then feeling more pressured into taking it.  Just explain that you have given it more thought and would prefer to say no now.  Don't let them persuade you to just go and talk with them if you have already made up your mind.  That done, you will already feel less stressed today.
Secondly, getting in contact with your father after many years of silence is not going to be easy.  Perhaps his email address has changed?  You could try calling him?
Thirdly, as for your friends, it's hard, they have their things to share with you so it's fair to listen but they should do the same in return.  Try talking with them about sharing and reminding them that you are there to listen but that they should do the same.
I'm sorry about your mother, could you talk with her doctor and discuss your worries about her health with him/her?

This forum is really good, it helped me see things clearly and to tackle each thing as anxiety tends to make us lump all our worries together into a mountain!

Good luck and let me know how you get on....