absolute fear of getting pregnant/being pregnant.

[erin626]

One of the major fears I have is getting pregnant. I have a horrible fear of this happening. I don't know why but it has always been a major fear of mine since I understood and grasped the concept of it. Every month I go through terrible anxiety thinking about possibly being pregnant although my chances are slim to none. I know that even with the use of condoms that there's a slight chance but nothing I should work myself up over. My bf and I never have sex when I'm ovulating and we're safe about it all other times.

So this month I'm a few days off and have taken 3 pregnancy tests which all came back negative, of course. But still I'm waiting on my monthly bill. So I've been incredibly anxious over it. Everyday its all I can think about, its consuming my thoughts and causing me increased anxiety which probly is helping and may be delaying my period more.

What can I do tob stop doing this every month?? I even freak out when I don't have sex in between periods and think I could be pregnant and just happened to get one last period the month before. I hate this and continually spend way too much money on home tests and worry too much.

[dragonheart1303]

I hear you, I have been with my partner now for 4 and half years now. Im 32 now and you would of thought by now i would of made a decision, I never want kids. Though having anxiety of this is now putting a strain of my sex life, and my partner too thinks Im playing away too. I tried to tell him the other night about it, but he doesn't believe me. I have been pregnant twice before and I never want to do through that again. once miscarriage, and the 2nd a termination. I really need help as its consuming my life and putting a daggers in my relationship. Since the previous incidents, I go through the (might be pregnant) every month. Even though Im extra safe and take every precaution. I hate feeling like this and it got to the point where I don't want sex just incase there is that chance I could get pregnant again.

[erin626]

Well I did get it today...of course. So I'm very relieved and considerably less anxious. I don't want kids...its just not something I've never wanted. Its hard for me to bring this up with people because most women do want children at some point and people who already have kids just tell me what a joy pregnancy was and how happy they are now. No one actually believes that I have a true almost phobia of pregnancy. The fear has gotten so out of control that my sex life is suffering. Its putting a strain on my relationship and my bf has started to suspect I'm cheating on him because I take so many pregnancy tests even when we don't have sex. I'm not cheating on him. I just have this stupid irrational fear.

Nothing has ever happened to make me fear this. No event in my life. Quite a few of my friends had babies last year and I could see how happy they were and I was happy for them. But my friend made me touch her belly and feel the baby move and I didn't think it was a big deal but it sent me into a panic attack. Completely ridiculous I know but that's how much I fear it and how much it really freaks me out.

Ived tried the pill but it made me very sick. I woke up in the morning while on it and dry heaved for a couple hours. So the pill isn't really an option. I'm going to planned parenthood next week for a yearly check up so I will see if they have something that I can use with condoms that isn't the pill that could potentially keep me double protected.

Thanks for the understanding. I usually get the "what is wrong with you?" look from people when I explain this fear to them.

[Jade59]

Goodness, Erin, I hear you with this fear.  I got a kick out of you saying you even think you're pregnant if your late, but haven't had sex since I used to think the same even though I knew it was impossible and irrational.  Do you not want children?  I didn't, which was where my fear came from.  I'm afraid I don't have any suggestion on how to get over this since I never did - just wanted to tell you you're not alone.  You're already being as safe as possible - all you can do, honey, other than double up on protection such as using the foam (if that's still on the market) with the condom to give yourself more peace of mind.  Oh yeah, I am 51 and now 14mos since last period so can Finally, Sort Of relax, lol...

[nursegirl6572]

Wonder what is causing you to fear this?  Do you have any children?  If not, maybe it's the fear of the "unkown"?  Sounds like you are being ultra safe, so I think you know this fear is an irrational one.

If you're in therapy...maybe explore this with your therapist?

Of course you probably already know the more you stress, the more it will affect your cycle, so try to get to the bottom of this if you can!

Hang in there!