bedroom anxiety..dead fish

[jennylynnchan]

i used to be wild withmy ex. we do just about anything and everything in bed. i can do it with the lights on and try anything until recent years i begin to feel self concious. i shy away and feel very awkard. all i want is missionary and lay around. i dont want the lights on and im constantly worried how i am in bed. i fake moan because if i was to be real, there would be no noise or heavy breathing. i cant meet my lover in the eye because my face and body become stiff and awkward. and when being asked to do other positons, i shy away. i might try for a few seconds and go back on my back again. or my favorite would be side ways so i dont have to face my  lover. sex nolonger feels good. the only time when i have good sex without having the anxiety is when i am drunk. i feel like an old fart what can i do to regain the passion and be wild again? i want to be impressive, sexy and fun in bed

[anxiety11yrs]

Did you just start taking anxiety medication?  I know with the meds that I am on, I am never in the mood to do anything

[Barbarella]

Could it be that you just got bored with your lover?  If not, you might want to see a sex therapist to see what is going on.

You say you feel self conscious which you did not before.  Has your weight and looks changed?  Did you have sex with somebody else and therefore feel guilty when facing your lover?  Has your lover made any negative remarks about your love making?

How old are you?  Could it be hormones?

You need to have this checked out.  You just don't go from hot momma to cold fish like that there is a reason.

[cat33]

I do not think you have anxiety at all. You would absolutly know it if it were anxiety you would be in a Dr.s office or emergency room immediately. It's and ovewhelming fear. Not quite what your describing if your not sure go see your Dr.

[debaser23]

Are you sure this is anxiety, or are you just not happy with the person you're with?  Also, how are you treating your anxiety?