fear of being alone... cant sleep!!

[misskld]

I was just wondering if anyone else has a fear of being alone and if that triggers anyone elses anxiety like it does me?  When it comes time for bed for my boyfriend I always start feeling like **** and that dread feeling in my chest comes out as well as the shortness of breathe, because I know hes going to work in the morning and wont be here.  I stay up.. like right now its 2:15am (hes been in bed since midnight) and wait till im so tired I have to sleep, even then I lay in bed for a while.  When I wake up in the mornings when he does sometimes I can fall back asleep but most of the time after I hear that door shut behind him I have to get up and sit in the living room and either watch tv or movies or play on the computer for a couple hours before I feel just a bit better then sometimes I go back to sleep just so the time passes till he gets home.  Then when I wake up from that I do the same thing but the sleeping part till he gets home.  Its only been like this for the past week it just came out of no where, i've been dealing with anxiety for over 2 months now and i've never had to get up in the mornings when he did at 6am and not beable to sleep anymore.  I have had sleeping pills a few weeks back but only for a week and it was just until the Paxil kicked in.  Ive been on Paxil (10mg) for about 1 month 1...2 weeks and I thought it was working until a week ago.  Any sugestions?  The doc says he cant do anything else but if it comes down to it if it gets worse he'll give me a weeks worth of Zopiclone 7.5mg(sleeping pills) again, he just doesnt want me to become dependant on them and niether do I.  But this all is from the fact of knowing i'll be alone when he goes to work the next day and when I wake up and he's gone or I hear the door shut behind him.  Am I going crazy???  I feel so .. silly!

[katrinahmiller]

You are doing some things RIGHT kiddo.  Good Job! Posting to this blog gave you an opportunity to express the feeling.  The number one rule in managing anxiety is not not suffer in silence, but to allow others to help you.  I should know--I have a lifetime of anxiety and I am a therapist.

Have you told your dilemma to people around you who are not in the virtual world?  I like how you asked if others had experienced a fear of being alone.  If you asked that to your "real" people, it might have more psychological capacity to help you overcome the fear.

So--You are OK.  From your profile, i observe you are a beautiful young woman inside and out. You have a very responsible attitude toward health--amazing for a 19 year old.  Hang on! Life gets better.

[illusionsoffear]

I am a 46 yr old male recently diagnosed with a panic disorder and severe anxiety brought on by subconscious existential factors and other overwhelming life issues. I have become very anxious to the point of panic when my gf leaves the house for any extended period of time. I beleive this is due to the fact that she represents a level of comfort for me in this my difficult time. She was out of work when this started and was there fully, talking me through the horrors and being all manner of support for me. Im on celexa going into the second week with no noticeable effects yet. I take ativan in the meanwhile and just restarted meditation again, though still beseeched with fears when I go deep. I know that this too shall pass, as there is no fear that cant be conquered by your truth self. hang in there guys and keep fighting the fight.

[shadowserpent]

ive been having this problem bad. and i mean bad! i cant stay in my house alone, go anywhere alone, not even for 5 minutes! i know my boyfriend gets fed up, but theres nothing i can do to help this! gah i hope this stops soon, im guessing for me its my lack of medication and hopefully after im pregnant and fully medicated again i will be able to be alone again!

[misskld]

well that makes me feel better knowing im not alone.  its just the fact im scared its gunna happen and it makes it worse.  thanks for both of your comments and maybe therapy would help a bit im just the person who doesnt like talking to people i dont know, but if itll help i could give it a shot. thanks again

[scaredjo]

hello and welcome, yeah i have the morning when im alone anxiety this only started lately as soon as my hubby shuts the door my heart starts banging and feeling funny im scared to go back to sleep infact so scared that i cant (he goes out at 5am), and im the same about going to sleep i read until i jus literally drop asleep but let me tell you not getting enough sleep really doesn help anxiety at all. the only thing i can suggest if your already on meds is to try therapy you need to break the anxiety circle so you can get your sleeping pattern back and hopefully lose the fear of being alone

jo

[Shelley900]

Hi!  Yeah, I totally understand what you mean and it can really get you down!! I've been suffering anxiety for around the past couple of months now and although I'm starting to feel a bit better, I still get that feeling of dread in the mornings once my boyfriend leaves for work.  He goes away just before I need to get up and I can be feeling fine, but as you say, once the door closes it's almost as if those feelings of dread just kick right in!  I think that my biggest fear is incase I'm dashing around the house getting ready for work and then something happens to me when noone is around! Even when I get home at night (I'm home before he is) I lock the door behind me, but always make sure I take my keys out of the lock, just incase I collapse or something and then my boyfriend can't get in the house to save me!! I know it does sound really crazy, but I can assure you that you're not alone in any way nor are you in any way crazy either! x