help! constant worrying causing increase anxiety

[Kel5]

Hi, I am very close to my family but I realized that we are emeshed. We are way too close. I moved across the state but still talk to them frequently. While growing up I was always the problem solver and "fixer". I would calm everyone down and smooth things out. My mother has schizoaffective disorder bipolar type and OCD, I have been more like a mother figure to her. I have GAD and have been dealing with a change in medication. My family called me and my sister and my father have a very poor relationship and had a huge fight. My mom blames part of it on herself. I, like always, spent the phone call calming her down. But my anxiety level has gone way up. I am still adjusting to my new dose of klonopin and after the phone call, I can't stop worrying about my mom and the fight between my dad and my sister. I saw my therapist today and we a just beginning to explore some of the past issues that have lead to my anxiety issues. We talked about the emeshment I have with my family and the lack of boundries we have. But I can't stop worrying about everything. My anxiety is up, ruminating thoughts and some physical anxiety symptoms are starting (breathing issues, GERD systems increase, chest tightness, etc). I am still working on the fact that all this physical stuff is anxiety and not heart related. I KNOW its anxiety but as you know , its hard to tell ourselves that. Things were improving, but now I am having a set back. How can I stop the ruminating thoughts? I know I need to set boundries, but how do I deal with what going on right now. (I am just now talking about it in therapy, but its not a quick fix). any suggestions?

[mbll2772]

Im in the same boat as you im the family problem solver the one they come to wen they need support and i cant never say no to whatever they ask.From my mom to my crack head sister who lost her kids to foster care cause she choose drugs over them which i tried to help her but couldnt ended up with her kids which one was 15 and pregnant and i tried helping her but when the baby was born she decided motherhood wasnt for her unless someone came over then he was her prize and he has lung probs from the drugs she did while pregnant so i lived in the hospital with him for bout a month. my other sister who is in a abusive relationship who ive bailed out of that helpin to get restraing orders on her boyfriend and lettin her stay with me to turn around and just keep going back and i dealt and dealt till one day i cracked couldnt take it anymore my body and mind just screamed enough is enough had panick attack and gad every since that day in oct.i finally had to say to all of them STOP i cant do it anymore i can try to help you but i cant do it all.still not totally better but am getting help with therepy to learn to let go and tell them i love them but i cant live their lives for them i cant make everything better when im fallin apart myself they have to do it too.The physical symptoms are my hardest part too.This forum is full of amazing people that dont judge and will give you honest advice that has helped me so much so i know someone will be able to help you.Keep us posted.

[Nummiez]

Oh yeah. Anxiety does funny stuff to your body. Cant kill you though :) Try some deep breathing and thinking about something happy...I alway do some deep breathing and think about rainbows and unicorns...Silly I know,Buy hey...It helps :) Everything will be alright...Dont worry...Easier said than done, I know...But you'll be alright ^__^