"But there are many factors that could make hugging a risk"
No, there absolutely are NOT. Hugging is not a risk, period, unless perhaps you are hugging someone who just had their arm amputated at the same time YOU did and you hemorrhage on one another. That would be about the only "blood to blood" scenario that would possibly pose a risk. Of course, all of this info is already readily available on the HIV forums...as well as on a journal I wrote.
Read the hundreds of posts both in the HIV Community forum, as well as the expert (MD) forum where you will better educate yourself. Serodiscordant couples live together all the time...hugging, kissing, sharing bathrooms, dishes, etc...and not one non-infected person becomes positive.
Risks for HIV include ONLY the following: UNPROTECTED vaginal or anal sex, sharing drug works, and via mother to infant.
You came to the anxiety forum to address your anxiety, not to debate your non-risk for HIV. You can get a lot of valuable info on how to harness your anxiety on this forum...it would only make sense to use it.
It's been 11 days since this happened and I have sore throat and feel fatigued
But there are many factors that could make hugging a risk, cuts and other nicks on the skin, also Im a nailbiter so my nails and cuticles are all messed up. Also may have rubbed my eyes after touching her..
HIV is not transmitted via hugging...even if she had had a small cut. You do not have HIV. Time to start addressing your anxiety, which is what plagues you.