please help

[nikki661]

Hello,

My husband have a depression and anxiety.Our marriage right now was so **** up after I found out he was smoking pot and crack cocaine.I lose my trust and didnt believe to him evrytime he say he stop.He started to hit me if we fight and i keep yelling on him.I dont know what will i do?I dont wan to divorce him.I want to help him but i dont know how.He said I should yelling at him keep asking him all the things.I really dont know what to do anymore.I dont know if he still using it or what.Shall I trust im again.?Today we just fight and he said he want a separation because he was so tired of this.

[mammo]

You really don't want to remain with someone like this.  This is not fair to you and I'm sure it's not the life you want or deserve.  Right now you need to take care of YOU and get out of there.  He seems to be getting worse instead of better and he needs to want help to get help.
Maybe losing you will open his eyes and he will get help and then the two of you can work on the marriage.  I wish you all the best and take care of yourself.

[youngboii123]

if he's hitting you there should be no reason to still be with him. you should try and seek help for him but if he doesnt want help the theres nothing you can really do. you need to find someone thats you can be happy with and someone thats going to treat you right

[TheLightSeeker]

Hey nikki.
Please make sure first, that you are safe. Your husband is not the same person anymore.
You are dealing with a different person that needs help, but will not accept help.
He cannot quit on his own. You trying makes things worse. And you should not trust him.
Addiction to crack cocaine is a serious disease. Can you arrange an intervention?
Get someone knowledgeable in this field to help you do it. Gather support from all friends and family from both sides, but specially his family and prepare, prepare. prepare!
This requires detailed planning and there are no guarantees. If you're not cut for it, get someone else to step up.
Do not attempt to become the savior. This will destroy your life.
Act out of love, but be wise. Give him a chance, but if he really no longer wants to be with you, then what's the point to stick around. You have your entire life in front of you.
Do not consider this your failure. It is one of lives lessons. If you learn something,
then it served its purpose. If you didn't, then you must dig deeper to find the meaning.
Blessings
Nikodicreta

[AnnieBrooke]

Separate.  Then get counseling.  You will be better able to decide what to do when you are not yelling and being hit all the time.