separation anxiety

[crazychicken55]

i am new to anxiety and 2. weeks ago had major panic attack i am now afraid of. everything and feel like i will never get aback to me. my wonderful husband is heading back to work tomorrow and i am sick. wit anxiety is there anything i can do i am working wit a therapist and no medication just zanax ifneeded and i am so filled wit what if and just dread. that he. is going back

[crazychicken55]

Thank you so much for you advise it is wonderful. I spoke to my therapist who said that this would be the hard part but that we have a plan and I need to stick to it today I got up took Xanadu hour before he left and then went back to sleep for hour got up went yo the gym and actually able to make it to the food store I am home now and this is where I get freaked because of the time gap I am gonna pick my niece up from school at 3 try yo get back into routine

[nursegirl6572]

The most important thing is that you reached out for help.  Getting anxiety under control doesn't happen overnight.  You will have good days, bad days and awful days.  You have to try and accept that...it's OK.  It's also perfectly normal to feel anxious about your husband returning to work.  If he has been your support person and the one to comfort you during your panic attacks, you will naturally want him around.  Unfortunately, life doesn't stop for us anxious people and he HAS to go to work.  After a few days, it will get easier for you.  You can always come here and vent, we'll try to get you through the rough days as best we can.  

As HARD as it will be, try with all your might NOT to make him feel badly about having to go to work...if you're feeling anxious, TRY to smile and nod through it...and try to ignore the urge to call him to "rescue" you.  Anxiety is very hard on our loved ones.  The very worst thing is to make them feel like we cannot function without them, because they feel badly about leaving you, but at the same time, they have to go to work!!  It takes some practice, but you'll get there.  There have been countless days I wanted to call and beg my hubby to come home right NOW, but after doing that a few times and seeing how stressed he was, I toughened up and handled as much of it as I could alone, and found other support people.

Keep working with your therapist, try to be patient, as I said, this can be a long process.  Maybe discuss the possibility of adding a different medication (an antidepressant) with your doc.  Definitely take the Xanax when you need it.  My advice to you would be to take it about an hour before your hubby leaves for work tomorrow.  That may help ease that moment for you a bit.

Keep doing what you're doing.  Ask your therapist to recommend exercises you can do while you're at home, start keeping a journal, read some books about anxiety and panic.  Knowledge is power.  Better days are coming.  Hang in there.