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Holiday Anxiety!! Please Help!!
My anxiety started almost a year ago...Turning 30 was a "Big Deal" for me!! For some reason I had this terrible feeling I was going to die at 30...My Birthday is Dec 21, on New Years I had a major anxiety attack and have been having them ever since. I'm about to turn 31 and I feel like I'm going to die. I'm afraid I'm either going to have another major anxiety attack around my birthday or on New Years. I'm terrified of leaving my daughters without a mother. I know the more I think about it the worse it's going to get, I just don't know how to control all these negative thoughts I'm having!! Do I just take and ativan on my birthday and on new years and just sleep through it. PLEASE if anyone can give me advise I would greatly appreciate it. I feel as the days are getting closer I'm starting to get more anxiety!!
I was hoping to hear from you!! I don't know if my anxiety was triggered on New Year's because we didn't do anything that night except stay home and have dinner...lots of time to think!! Reading your comment has really made me think...I'm not terminally ill, none of my family members have died at a young age, there's really nothing!! My husband almost passed away at the end of last year and I was traumatized with what happened to him and what I seen. I've read that sometimes when something like this happens it could cause anxiety. I have seen my doctor, I've had several EKG's, I was on a holter monitor for several months, stress test, echo and everything is fine. I have a lot of anxiety symptoms though. I was prescribed ativan by my doctor, I don't like taking ativan unless I really need it. I haven't had one in weeks. I have been seeing a Transformational Life Coach, which has slowly been helping. I can call her whenever I need her. I want to be able to fight this and be normal again!! I refuse to live like this!!
For 29 years you never had an anxiety attack, which is great. As your 30th birthday drew close, you somehow became convinced that you would die that year. But it wasn't until eleven days past your birthday that you had your first anxiety attack. Did something happen that day to make you think "I'm going to die today?" Because SOMETHING happened that day which triggered the start of your anxiety attacks.
And here we are, 10 days away from your 31st birthday. Are you fearing you only have 10 days left to live or that you're facing another year of fearing you're going to die?
You said that after your first anxiety attack on New Years day last year, you've been having them ever since. So not only are you convinced you'll die at 31, you fear having a major anxiety attack on your birthday or on New Years. The more you keep obsessing about it, the higher your chances are that you WILL have an attack.....you'll talk yourself into one, like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Why do you think you're going to die at so young an age? Have a large number of family members died in their 30's? Do you have some sort of terminal illness? Is there ANY logic backing up this fear?
During the past year, when you suddenly began having anxiety attacks........which you'd never had in 29 years, did you see your doctor about these strange and frightening episodes? What tests did your doctor order? Were you put on any medication? Was therapy suggested? You said you had some Ativan, so they must have assumed it was anxiety. Should you just take some and sleep through your birthday and New Years, you ask. Well, that's definitely one way of dealing with this problem, but I'm pretty sure it'll be the same next year and the year after that....................Something has triggered an anxiety response in you and the only way to deal with it is to get into therapy and confront whatever the hell is causing it. Drugs will only mask the symptoms, they will never cure the root cause. A few months in therapy or a lifetime of anxiety attacks, of believing that you're going to die.........those are your choices. There is no door #3.
Make a birthday wish and a New Years resolution to end this during your 31st year. Otherwise you'll be writing us 10 days before your 96th birthday saying you're going to die...........
I wish you a happy birthday, Merry Christmas and a Happy, Mentally Healthy New Year!
Nemaste
Greenlydia
And here we are, 10 days away from your 31st birthday. Are you fearing you only have 10 days left to live or that you're facing another year of fearing you're going to die?
You said that after your first anxiety attack on New Years day last year, you've been having them ever since. So not only are you convinced you'll die at 31, you fear having a major anxiety attack on your birthday or on New Years. The more you keep obsessing about it, the higher your chances are that you WILL have an attack.....you'll talk yourself into one, like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Why do you think you're going to die at so young an age? Have a large number of family members died in their 30's? Do you have some sort of terminal illness? Is there ANY logic backing up this fear?
During the past year, when you suddenly began having anxiety attacks........which you'd never had in 29 years, did you see your doctor about these strange and frightening episodes? What tests did your doctor order? Were you put on any medication? Was therapy suggested? You said you had some Ativan, so they must have assumed it was anxiety. Should you just take some and sleep through your birthday and New Years, you ask. Well, that's definitely one way of dealing with this problem, but I'm pretty sure it'll be the same next year and the year after that....................Something has triggered an anxiety response in you and the only way to deal with it is to get into therapy and confront whatever the hell is causing it. Drugs will only mask the symptoms, they will never cure the root cause. A few months in therapy or a lifetime of anxiety attacks, of believing that you're going to die.........those are your choices. There is no door #3.
Make a birthday wish and a New Years resolution to end this during your 31st year. Otherwise you'll be writing us 10 days before your 96th birthday saying you're going to die...........
I wish you a happy birthday, Merry Christmas and a Happy, Mentally Healthy New Year!
Nemaste
Greenlydia
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