anxiety

[jaythepioneer]

how can i calm my partner down when she has a anxiety attack?

[eve2008]

My husband usually talks me through my panic attacks.Not long ago I was having a full blown panic attack.My husband just laid down with me and rubbed my back and arms and reassured me everything was going to be okay.That helped me so much..I just felt really comforted and finally stopped shaking and was able to relax.I hope this helps.
Good luck to you and your partner..

[fuzzy882]

As cj say's, it's so wonderful that you are taking an intrest in this. Alot of people are scared off from it.  I'm going to base this on my own experience ok?

I cant be around someone who's an alarmist when my anxiety level is high.  I need someone who just kind of "sluff's it off", not feed into it. That's why being honest with that person is important. We need to hear that everything's OK. It's just anxiety. Help talk us down, and last but not least, Hold us when we need to be held.  Sometime's when an anxiety attack is happening we tend to get quiet and keep people at arm's length, that's ok though, dont force yourself on her, just stay close, she will lit you know when to come closer.

Good Luck to you

[cj29]

I am glad that you are taking an interest in understanding your partners anxiety.  It often frustrates the other person when their significant other has a panic attack.  I have suffered from anxiety and panic and with my anxiety returning, the best thing my wife exhibits is patience and compassion.  She understands that it is not my fault and has spent much time learning about it through a counselor, because anxiety affects not only the sufferer, but the ones closest to him/her as well.

Has your partner gone to see a therapist about it?  Talking to someone about the anxiety cycle is a very effective way to manage and thrive with the condition.