Are you interested in trying any HRT? I tried menopause without it and that only lasted 6 months. I had a previous long history with depression and my anxiety started 1 yr before menopause. I was such a *****, my family was ready to divorce me! I felt so much better-it helped my moods and IRRITABILITY.
Perhaps you need a mild anti-depressive med like Cymbalta or Lexipro to go along with the xanax? I'd check with your doctor. Best wishes!
Have you had your VIT D checked lately? And has your doc checked thyroid and blood glucose? My husband, who has MS, and Low VIT D count has been complaining of high anxiety lately even though he is on the highest dose of his meds so I started checking his blood sugar (we had a tester in the house from another family member) every time he complained of anxiety and sure enough it was a blood sugar imbalance.
I hope this helps
Jennie