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[fran907]

my husband is manic and likes it he destroying everything his friends and family.  I would like him  to seek help but he refuses .  So anyone knows had to get him help... Some tricks I can do to get him to a doc's or hospital.  I really need help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[crzychick]

If he is manic he will not see himself as needing help.  It won't be until he hits the depressive side that he will seek it.

You may have to step back and move out for now, to your parents or a friends home.  If he sees that you are not going to be there and be co-dependent it might get the message thru stronger.

Your other option is harder but you can have him hospitalized.  You make the call.  At the least they will keep him the 72 hours for observation.  Yes he might be upset with you but if they help him and it gets the message thru to him it will help the relationship in the long run.  If he gets so mad that he wants to leave you, well (this part is rough) his actions were driving the two of you apart anyhow.

If you have to go the route of the hospital maybe it will get him on meds and then to a therapist.  Couple sessions might help also.

Best Wishes.  I know it's hard.  Life with a beeper isn't easy and I commend you for looking for help instead of heading for the hills.

[Crystlas]

Oh,  I would not stay with me if I was my fiance and acted like that!!  I would not blame him for running for the hills.  BP is managable if someone wants it, otherwise you might want to re-think being married to him!  I got deeply depressed recently and almost killed myself.  My fiance made the necessary call and I went willingly to the hospital, got evaluated and put on the right medication.   I am now getting very stable on these meds.  As soon as I got home, I made a contract of health to give to him and my entire family.  On it was all emergancy information, doctors, and hospital information.  I also wrote a letter to my fiance stating that if I do not control my BP then we have no commitment.  That is a person serious about controlling their illness.  I love myself and him enough to be dedicated to stability.

[Crystlas]

hmmm.... you know something?  I made a pact with my fiance to stay as stable as possible, take my meds like I should and take care of my BP.  I love him so so much and he is worth managing my BP to have a healthy, safe and happy union.  I am also worth it to myself to maintain stability and be successful in my career of social work.   Does your husband not feel the same about your union????

[fran907]

thanks  

[DLA]

I agree with Shawn.  Unless he is locked up b/c of being a danger to himself or others he will have to decide he needs help on his own.  Good luck and be careful.

[shawn47]

Got kids?  Get your kids and get out.  Tricks?  I don't think so.  So you need to take care of yourself and get the hell out.  You can't do anything for him until he understands that he needs to accept treatment.