cyclomithic disorder

[indie2257]

Has anyone out there lived with cyclomithic partner/relative  who can help me? I need advice

Shelley

[Midijane]

Oh my goodness. You and your kids have really given it your all, you know that right? I dated a bipolar man for 2 years and it took me many many years after to regain my shredded confidence and joy in life.

You don't owe him an explanation to go and take care of yourself. But I would recommend having all of your ducks in a row before you do. And be ready for a fight! Maybe a family member or friend could be with you if you decide to tell him you're leaving.

Sorry This is going to be a short response right now, but I will log back in this eve and write more. I just wanted to say you sound like you've got it together and are a strong woman. I'll be back in touch tonight.

(((Hugs))),

M

[indie2257]

Sorry, forgot to say that my decision to stay or go depends on his willingness to get treatment if he goes to go XX

[indie2257]

Hi there. Thanks for your response. It is so nice that people like yourself and bubulous look out for newbies like  me. I want/need to talk to others in my situation. Myself and my children have always thought that my husband's reactions to perceived slights and what he considers unreasonable behaviour were so extreme. He would beg to differ. We have never been able to express our own arguments against his tirades as this was like a red rag to a bull. After years working in the law he is second to none  in expressing his feelings. He has been very manipulative in alienating me from my family over the years, ie my parents and sister,and close friends. The children have now left home and are very supportive of me but I still feel guilty that I didn't leave years ago as my younger son and my daughter now have issues. They and I have always felt very uneasy about his drinking as his mood could go one way or the other.over the last couple of years he has gambled heavily even though we have lost our life savings. We could all see a downward spiral and my middle son tried to intervene which my husband has interpreted as" trashing my life and role as a father"'. The resulting rift has caused me to suffer panic attacks and I am currently off work. This was the straw that broke the camels back! I I am now seriously considering leaving him but my decision, I think, depends on whether I can present him with other examples of living with a cyclomithic partner. I only came across this condition when I was looking for details of my own illness. It pretty much sums him up really. I feel I may be clutching at straws but feel I have to give it a shot.

[indie2257]

Thanks for the suggestion. I have done it today. You have been very helpful x

[Midijane]

Can you describe what you mean? What behaviors are you concerned about?

M