Up til this November...my husband was wonderful, and I was a very happy women. Sure, he was zany, loud...over the top sometimes, but I thought he was just ADHD. At some point though, during a trip, he had an affair(I didn't know it yet)...and about that time he crashed so low...he didnt even laugh or smile for weeks. I knew he was mentally ill, and called his doctor.
Anyways, to fast forward, he suddenly wanted to move back "home" out of state. He spent hours talking with his ex g-f...and my wonderful marriage was gone overnight. He said he no longer had feelings for me, and our marriage was a mistake, and he was sorry...no emotion, just "I'm sorry". luckily, he is getting help for it, but still has no feelings. It has been 2 months now since I moved out, but I still love him very much. being there, with the flirtations and the sudden indifference was just too much for me. Finally, his Pdoc diagnosed a mood disorder (my therapist said prob bipolar 1)
They have now upped his dose of Depakote to max...he said his last Naprolic acid count was 35...when they checked it the first time it was 18. I guess it should be at 50 (I dont know what all this means, I have yet to talk to his doctor). It is so hard to let go, and keep the door open all at once. I still love him, I would love to be there for him IF he wanted me, but he dosent. If the affairs and acting out was his illness, I can understand and forgive. I dont know what to think. I try to tell him I love him, and he replies "ok"...this same guy was so in love with me, and I with him just weeks before.
I am so confused. Please give me any ideas. When his meds are straight, is there any possibility I will get my wonderful husband back?
Thanks for your help in advance!