There is a book called "Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder" by Julie Fast. It is $14 on Amazon. That may help him understand what you are going through.
I also think apologies are really important. When you are having a stable day, write him a letter of all the things he does that you appreciate, and the things you love about him. Be really detailed. I love how you say my name, I love running my hands through your hair. I will never forget the first time we kissed, I appreciate you take out the trash, that you tell me I am beautiful, etc. Make two copies. One for you that you try to remember to read before you yell, and one for him to build him up.
Also examine what you fight about. Is there a 'real' issue there that needs to be addressed or are you fighting for the sake of the adrenaline rush? If there are a variety of 'real' issues needing to be discussed and you can't figure out how to do it on your own consider seeing a family therapist. If you ask around there are some non-profit ones that work on a sliding scale meaning that the less you earn the less you pay so that makes it more affordable, as well some workplaces now have Employee Assistance Programs (EAP). There would be brochures in the workplace. The workplace is not notified that you are seeking therapy either. It is completely confidential.
Because if you fight in front of your little girl, you are writing on the slate of her life, you are creating instability for her. So if the two of you can't do it for yourselves, do it for her.
Each night my husband 'tucks' me in since he goes to bed later than I do. He just lays beside me, we hold hands, and talk a little. It is moments like that which are important. When you are raving manic you may not have control so it is doubly important when you do have control to use that time to foster a strong bond.
The other issue is to get your episodes under control. The Bipolar Survival Guide Second Edition by David J. Miklowitz PhD is an excellent resource. Good for both of you to read. It covers the latest in medication and give some practical ideas for management.
Good luck.
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I know exactly how you feel. My hubby puts up w/ my sudden outbursts & irritable ways . Sometimes I wonder why & how? He's learned to block me when I'm acting irrational. We've been married since I was dx 10yrs ago.I think in time your honey will get it. I continue behavior therapy & Med compliance.I'm doing the best I can. Continue on doing the best you can.
I feel your pain i get into moods and i cant stop i start cleaning in the middle of the night sometimes i dont remember what i said i wish i had someone who understood instead i get labeled as being crazy i have 3 grls i feel like a failure
Relationship therapy or therapy that deals with parenting issues might be of help. A person can experience sudden anger and other marked changes during a mixed state and some medications may be more helpful on that than others. Also a person can in bipolar (it has happened to me) be unaware of or be unable to cope with their actual feelings. It would be worthwhile to speak to a psychiatrist about your own concerns and there are ways to address the others as well.