Questions on Bipolar in general..Please help!

[backtomyselfoneday]

Hey guys,

Can anyone please shed some light on this illness for me? I have a partner that was formally diagnosed with it as a teen but has been battling it on her own now for some time. She just made an appointment with a therapist because she is realizing she can no longer do it alone. The biggest thing is that she can't hold down a relationship for more than 3 months or so. Is this common with BPD? I know very little about it and was hoping someone could help me, so I can help her through it.

Thanks guys!

[looloo141]

Hi I would just like to say that relationships are very difficult and mostly don't last but if youre really right for eachother and you genuinely want to help it can definitely work, and you will find that when she is strong, she is realllllyyyyy strong and will be able to help you with your tough times, its not all bleak, we are quite unique people!!

Good luck, and nice to hear that people do want to find out as much as they can!

[backtomyselfoneday]

Thank you both for your words, prayers, and support. I think you were right when you said that love can conquer all. I know there will be challenges here and there. I'm just scared for her and I wish I could "fix" it. I'm really praying that she connects with this therapist and they work well together.
Anyway, thanks again and I have some homework to do!

[diamondgirl14]

It is true relationships will be difficult.  The theropist will be a great help, but it will be a difficult bumpy road. Love can overcome though. You will need patients and understanding. Try to find a support group. Meds may also be the answer. My daughter is bipolar. I have been barreling with these difficulty for 17 years.they cycle and with time you will learn her cycles and what helps her through them. Sometimes she will need you to just listen. Other times she will need a shoulder to cry on for what seems like no reason at all. Other times she sill need to be left alone. You will notice signs. They tend to be impulsive,and have no impulse control. Finances and relationships are not there strong points. With meds my daughter has improved greatly. I wish you luck and I will keep you in my prayers.

[trdofbeingtrd]

Relationship problems is frequent with bipolar. It is because of the nature of the illness that relationships end quickly or worse, abusive. Her going to see a therapist if great news. If that therapist don't seem to be helping after about a month or two, I would suggest seeing a different therapist. Some people (in my opinion it's rare) need medication to deal with this illness, however, therapists have high success rates and there is no medication needed.

She is on the right path, and with friends like you she will do great. You will get more answers about this, and it's wise to ask people who actually have it instead of trusting what someone who never had it says (many books are done by people who don't suffer from it). It wouldn't hurt though so you know for yourself to do some research on it. Wikipedia is a great site for giving correct information regarding bipolar.

Good luck to both of you.