I'm sorry that you didn't like what I had to say, but it IS wretched to allow an animal to suffer like this. So many people come on this forum thinking that we have some "magical" solution to a problem, when the only "magical" solution is veterinary care. Which the magical solution in your poor cat's case is an antibiotic, before the infection spreads and she will be beyond help. That, honestly, may not be too far off.
Please, save your cat and get her some help.
I didn't like your comment at all you treated me like I was a wretched person who wasn't capable of pity , I am I love my cat so much and it breaks my heart to see her in this condition, but how was this suppose to help ? yes i thought of how painful and uncomfortable she must be, but please watch what you say it made me feel horrible and guilty for what?. Did I not mention that I will or might have to give the cat up, infact yes I did so I do have obviously the "humanity " to give her up.
Your cat is in a lot of pain and deserves treatment. If you have any decency and humanity, you will do whatever it takes to get her treatment even if it means giving the cat up. Would you want to be left in the condition that you're leaving your cat in?
Call around to the vets and ask about payment plans. Many vets will work with you.