Is it good for 17 yr boy some time sleep in Mon bed

My son is know over 17yrs. I have to read lot and most time separate with my wife. I some time in the morning find my son sleep in my wife's bed. some time my son feel not good so need support. I think this is not healthy habit for my son, my affect his future behavior. But my wife argues that this increase the love between her and her son. But I think it is ok before bed time lay on bed talking to eath other, but not whole night. I need your suggestion which is the best way.

Also, my son perfers to putting computer (with intenet connected) and TV on his bedroon, and we found recenly often complaints that he feel  tired and lowe fever, he look without enough ambition even he is now facing with SAT exam. I tried to take all computer and TV out couple of time. But once my son find some excuse,  my wife always agrees put them back. I hope get some suggesion over this as well. Thanks

[redneckmom]

No it is not good for your 17 year old son to be sleeping with his mother.  If he wants to talk then he can come in and talk to her but sleeping together is not appropriate.  It sounds like you are a sort of stranger in your own family watching your wife and son live their lives as suited to them.  What is going on there?  If the computer and tv are making him tired, put a limit on them.  You can buy timers for both of these items and when it is say...9:00 they shut off no questions asked.  Are you and your wife working opposite shifts?  Why are you not going to bed until morning?  Maybe your wife is filling your spot with your son.  Your family needs a good talk.  Have you ever heard of a reading light?  They allow you to have enough light to read and do not bother your bedmate at all.  If you are not in bed just because you "read a lot" then maybe you should take 10 bucks and invest in one.  Your son can't sleep in your spot if you are there.  If your family is willing to go I think you all could benefit from a good family counselor.  Best of luck to you johnzz