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No biological child
I have to accept that I will not have children in this life. I am 46, have a stepson who I can't really be a mother too. have to watch everything I say because of his asbergers/autism./its slight.
I love kids...I'm feeling really lonely because I moved from Nj to MD for my husband. I don't work..today I just want to escape
I love kids...I'm feeling really lonely because I moved from Nj to MD for my husband. I don't work..today I just want to escape
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Hi.....I know how you must long for a child and I'm sorry that you won't have any of your own. Have you thought of adoption? Being a Foster Parent? Big Sisters? Though you may not have any of your own, you have so much to offer children and can leave a lasting impression on them...even change their direction in life. Many children could use someone like you as their home life may not be great. You can impact so many children with your love and caring. Even working at a daycare would allow you to be around children and your smile, caring and love of children is a much needed thing even in what appears to be the best of homes. Volunteer at your local childrens hospital to comfort the little ones who are ill. You have the ability to be so much to children, you owe it to yourself to see what you can do with your love for children. There is always a bigger picture, and nothing in life is more important than touching the life of a child. I think by getting out and doing any of the above things or volunteering your time to help others would give you so much satisfaction, and so much more to those whose lives you touch. I had 3 children of my own but still babysat because I do love children, that is always an option for you as well. I know none of this replaces having your own, but you can fulfill a tremendous need in others...young and old. See where you can volunteer to help others, it will help with your need to nurture and help others so much. My heart goes out to you, but just maybe it was meant for you to help the children whose parents are absent from their lives, or the elderly who never have any visitors, hospitals where the days are long for those who are ill. You have a lot to give and I feel it would help you so much. I wish you all the best and do stay in touch.
I hope that you saw my other posting to you that you posted later, because I'm someone who never had children. I think from your posting here that you will feel better once you make friends where you just moved to or get some work that you enjoy. But please see my other posting. Would be interested in any of your thoughts to it.
I am glad that you feel that way and I don't doubt that you have a lot of love to give. Let us know if you need to vent. I know you said you are ok but I read a different state of mind in your original post. I hope that it is because you have calmed down a little and feel bettter but if you need to vent or if you are struggling pretty bad come back to Medhelp. If you don't get a response on here please post on some other forums.
Either way I wish you the best of luck and spread that love around to every single person you come in contact with, ,not just your neices and nephews. You get paid back in the end for every smile that you give out and they are free and are easy to give :)
Either way I wish you the best of luck and spread that love around to every single person you come in contact with, ,not just your neices and nephews. You get paid back in the end for every smile that you give out and they are free and are easy to give :)
thank you so much...I do miss my nephew and niece who I raised as my own...I'll be ok ...there is a lot of love for me to give..
I posted on your other question. We can offer support an I hope you keep coming back here and checking your posts. The depression forum is a little slow sometimes but there are a lot of other forums on here that you may get into depending on what else you are sturggling with (anxiety, and physical problems, and so on?
Kee chacking back and let un know if there is anything we can help you with or if you just need to vent.
Larry
Kee chacking back and let un know if there is anything we can help you with or if you just need to vent.
Larry
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