Out of control

[ramblinrose322]

My husband is starting to show symptoms of depression and I feel it is my fault because he has had to deal with my depression now for 12 years. What do you suggest we do?

[ramblinrose322]

Thanks to all. I went to my doctor yesterday and now she says that I have a mood disorder, which I do agree with. I have episodes that I can't remember. Now I just need to get my husband into therapy.

[BloodMary]

It's not your fault. Never think like that. Your husband need help - meds, therapy. You also may help him. You had been down with depression and you may use your experiences to help him.

[MYoungAtHeart]

It is very difficult for a partner to live with someone who  is depressed, but you cannot pass on your depression like a case of mumps or chickenpox...
You don't say how old you all are, but part of the male menopause is sadness, fatigue and depression....

Your husband may think he has to hold it all together for your sake which is admirable, but not really a good idea.  Depression does not get better
in the closet or under the bed.  It needs the light of day and honest dialogue to start the process of healing....

I too think that family counseling is a wonderful idea....Please let us know how you are doing

My best wishes for you and your family

M

[unknown95]

seek medical attention and advice. take him to a phycologist or councillor they will help alot.  there alot of organisation that help with depression such as headspace and beyond blue. looke at some of them...

hope i helped you... :)

[ScarletSorrows]

go to counseling i know it may sound bad so try to make it to where you go with him a few times till he gets comfterable...get anti depresents....try saint johns wart..remember alchohal is a depressent...its not really your fault know matter how much you feel like it is there just might be more going on than you relize...just be easy with him dont yell or make him feel worse watch what you say even joking youll be supprised by how to heart those things can be taken try showing a little more affection like holding his hand or giving him a hug letting him know your there for him and you will go threw it together for a guy its harder on there pride to be depressed cause they think they half to be the strong one there emotions half to always be under control thats not the case you need to let him know it is okay and you are there for him and you are by his side forever an alway. do things you know he likes and you relize he has not done those things in a wile like make his fav dinner or watch football with him (some of it may be dull and dredfull) suggest he hang out with his friends. by you doing the things he likes with him will make him all the more happy...show up at his work to bring him lunch or make his lunch and write him a sweet letter...small things like that really helps a lot! but also try to get him to open up let him spek what is on his mind and let him do so freely without the negative comments even if you strongly disagree just listen try to see how he sees things...and help him get over what ever it is that has been dragging him down...and show your emotion if he is crying its ok to cry with him let him know he can share his pain...

[Life360_Dave]

Hi Ramb, why have you been depressed for 12 years? How long have you been married?

[Kelz72312]

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