How To move on

[BOBO33]

How do I forget about the girl I love? I have to, and I need to
turn to something other than trying to just forget.

[john4321]

study some near death experiences near-death ******* , they hv spiritual answers why we face the situations we face in life..

[888mom]

I am trying to remember when I was a lot younger... I think I did all the bad ways of forgetting.  Dating someone else when I really had no interest in them, just to get over the previous person (I think it's called rebound relationships).  Not the best thing for the person you end up dating because it's not fair to them.  Oh, then ignoring the sadness and/or anger by involving yourself in lots of activities that you hope you'll forget the pain.  I'm a girl, so the best way girls handle things like that is to talk to their other girlfriends about it.  I don't know if men do the same things the same way.  Unless you're a girl (couldn't tell what gender you were).  Well, anyways, there are lots of ways to get over someone, and many of those ways are not always the best way... but sometimes, it's just what you have to do.  I guess if you try the rebound relationship thing, just make sure the other person knows you don't want a serious relationship and that you just came out of one.  I guess also that's if you can find someone else to date.  That's hard for some people to do right away too.

Um, the other thing is if you are depressed, like really depressed about it, talk to your doctor.  A temporary prescription of an antidepressant might help you stay out of a big funk.  He/she might also recommend a counselor visit if your insurance covers it.  With topics that are temporary issues like breakups, it wouldn't be an ongoing visit thing, probably just a couple visits to help you get back on your feet and make sure you don't go into a big depression.  Talking about things also helps.  SO like if you can't find a friend who will listen, counselors get paid to listen... so they can't exactly ignore you.  Plus you get to leave the room and not see them again (or at least not until the next visit) so you don't have to worry about what a friend might think of you.  

[loiloi]

Don't be too hard on yourself right now, time is a great healer.
I thought i't never get over my ex-boyfriend leaving me and our baby. But, with time, I have stopped thinking about him. No longer remember his birthday or phone number. Feel nothing for him, neither good nor bad.
Hensley's right, she is not the only girl in the world for you. Spend time with your friends and with other girls. Have fun without rushing into another serious relationship too soon.
Eloise.

[Hensley258]

There is actually a relationship forum on Med help that may be more benificial to you.

Regardless, I share with you what helped me thru three serious failed relationships in my 20's.

(Women please don't think I am a jerk fopr saying this, but it does seem to work for us men)

I understand that right now your heart is hurting, but as a man that was many times in the same in the same situstion, I always found comfort and "satisfaction" in other woman.

That may sound bad I know, but I always found other women to be a real satisfaction for me during those times of heart ache. I'm not saying I used other Women. This was always a mutual uderstanding. I wanted something and they wanted the same thing.

These "other Women" gave me the strength to carry on and be happy with being single and free.

No, these were not "paid for women." Just Women who were at the same point in their life that I was.

Truth is, I actually kind of miss a lot of that excitement and adventure, but My time for that has passed. I'm an old 38 year old married guy now. Not much excitement anymore.