I had/have bulimia, it is like a horrible habit like some wash hands before a meal. It starts off wanting to lose weight and then becomes an addiction and then you become hooked on cramming as much food in and feeling really really bloated and ill and memories of what you have eated and how many calories and the guilt comes. It is the most disgusting thing to do in the world - make yourself sick but it is a self harm method technically. Somewhere in life you feel you cant control other areas but this one habit/urge allows you to control that part of things. You have children so think about them, diet properly, get out more where you cannot eat like normally as you do in secret and take your mind off food, join aerobics/yoga. Or something so unlikely - belly dancing? Pole dancing lessons - good for self esteem. I know how hard it is and i really hope this has helped somehow, god luck hun x x
I do know somebody like you. It was a big struggle for him and he didn't realise it was a problem for a long time. Now he's being totally honest about it with everybody closest to him and they're working through it really positively & with discipline as a family with an eating disorder team. If you feel any emotional problems to do with eating disorders whatsoever you should see a physician and they'll set you up with a plan and with solutions that will care for you :) or counselling. I wish you well my dear :)