What a terrible thing to do to someone. Hope everything will work out alright for you.
Yes sullyfish I'm in Washington dc I did call back and talked to the supervisor and they said they wouldn't inform me like that and they said the person may have had a app on there phone which they can call from a different number but posing as the one they comes up on your phone.
Sounds like a prank. I'd probably just get tested anyway, not only for your own sake, but in case something more comes of this, so that you will have proof that you are not HIV positive.
I could be wrong... but listing people who 'might' have HIV is illegal; they cannot tell you over the phone that you have an STD, just that you came into contact with someone who did; they certainly cannot tell you that YOU infected someone either unless they know the strain of the HIV and you are HIV positive. Their database will have your contact information, but it will not say you are 'for sure' HIV positive given the circumstances. If you have HIV or any other STIs, you are put in a public health database, but it's not like they just leave copies of that on the street for the average joe to access, so if they were a real institution (which, I doubt they were), they have misled you. People in the healthcare system are obligated to inform you where your information is going and how it's going to be used. I don't know where you live, so these laws might not be applicable to you. Look up HIV and STD laws in your country/state/province/region and see if any of this adds up.
If these are medical professionals, they have the forms the other person had to fill out as proof against you in their database for contact purposes, but they cannot publish this anywhere, not even your medical records as far as I'm aware, until you test positive.
Just the nature of the conversations you describe proves that this is fake. Especially saying "you're just going to die anyway" --imagine if this were a real institution, how easily you could file a complaint and/or sue them. There have been tons of discrimination laws passed to protect HIV positive people from this sort of thing. Not to mention, they would not call you back and say "did you try to call this number?" If you called the number, there would have been an answering machine or some kind of formal greeting to connect you; people in busy clinics don't call you back if you just 'call'. They don't *69 you, and they are certainly bureaucratic enough to make you leave your name and number after a brief message... Just sayin'.
I think legally, they have to let you speak to their supervisor/a higher authority if this was in any way a reputable std clinic. Not to mention, they would not tell you the gender of the person you supposedly 'infected' because that is assuming A LOT about your sexuality and also gives too much information about who gave your name, which goes against the confidentiality of std testing. Not to mention this is speculative information; if you are not an established HIV positive person, you cannot be accused of infecting anyone. If they had a disguised voice, that is just plain fishy. I think this is all a hoax, a really cruel and immature hoax. If they call you again, I'd tell them you will be calling the police to report their phone number because they are harassing you and tell them you will charge them with slander if they publish false information about you (from the sounds of it, they were not willing to give you information about where this information would be published... a database? a website? that can be taken as slander and a threat, especially if they did not prove themselves as reputable medical professionals). If you are tested, are negative, if you still want to talk to these people, tell them that your medical records will show *and say it that way* that you are not HIV positive. If they say they cannot access them, then they are not a real institution.
Get tested to ensure that you are safe (who knows, this could be some kind of vigilante HIV infected person who is calling all sorts of people to get tested, or maybe it's a jealous ex/former friend who is trying to defame you, or maybe this is a person who is HIV positive who you've been with in the past, who was told by their doctor to call those who have been infected and wants to maintain their anonymity; I guess some doctors allow you to contact your partners yourself). Regardless, getting tested is a good idea anyways.
If this continues, I'd contact the police because this IS harassment even if they are in someway, an 'actual' institution or just someone who is too prideful to be honest with you. Telling you to get tested OR else, telling you how you are going to die, how they are going to put your name on somewhere? Harassment. Considering they did not go through what would happen if you were HIV positive (give you the low down) has prank written all over it. Get tested so you're in the clear and it's published in your medical records. That would be all a real institution needs to prove you are not infected.
If this keeps happening after you get tested, ask if you can speak to a detective at your local police station/ file a report regarding harassment. Who knows, maybe this is going on with a couple of people in your area. Do this if you find out that you are HIV negative (make sure you are not tested anonymously) and the calls start to become more frequent/malicious. I'm sorry that people suck.
Who knows if it was a prank! Play it safe and get tested!!