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Is inexperience the cause of my worrying?

Hello. I had a sexual encounter with a sex worker on June 15 (almost one month ago). The sexual encounter was for only few minutes (lets say 10 minutes maximum). These few minutes included unprotected oral sex (the sex worker was frequently spitting during the oral sex, not in my penis though. She was sucking for few seconds and then spitting in the floor). After that i put on the condom and had vaginal sex with her. Since her vagina was tight, i could not penetrate her properly and i came very fast may be within 10 strokes. I then took out the condom and checked for any leakages. i saw NO sperm leaking which supposedly means the condom was intact. However, I am not a regular sex worker visitor, but i dont know why i did it that time. May be it was my curiosity or wrong frame of mind as i frequently hear fascinating sex stories told by my friends.  However, since that experience my anxiety level and fear has been massive. I am not being able to concentrate on my work or any other routine activities. Is it because am not experienced in these stuff am worrying excessively? Should i move on and forget the worries? I did take a antibody test on the 12th day which came negative, I also consulted my worried with the psychological doctor, and she told me that i was worrying a lot as experience was very low risk exposure. The reason of my worries are the red dots that appeared on my chest (which is already gone by now). These were tiny red flat marks (not that itichy). Yesterday i again got few red dots on my left knees. I am naturally a very sweaty person and i play table tennis daily for one hour during which time i sweat really heavily. And i have had fungal problems since my childhood. Whenever i feel very hot and sweaty the fungus over my groin area comes alive. I see my friends who have regular sexual encounters with multiple girls and still stay cool and calm whereas though its my only experience i still am worrying a lot. Please recommend to me on how should i go about it? The red marks are the only possible symptoms  i have. I am reading a lot on internet about symptoms and my psychological doctor has told me not to do. She has told me it will only make me more scared and worrying. Please help me tackle my current vulnerable frame of mind? People are asking me what has happened to me as naturally  i am jolly type of person but this window period anxiety and red rashes are killing me from inside.
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Sure thing. Thanks!!
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See a dermatologist if you are concerned about your rash, it has nothing to do with HIV.
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Thanks for the short, sweet and much important words of relief.  This situation is such where rational and logical thinking just appears to be so difficult. The power of mind is so volatile. When positive it does wonders and when in negative mode its so much extreme.

The problem is am thinking too much of worst case scenario. Some times I feel, what if the sex worker was not infected at all, in which case am worrying for nothing.

Nevertheless  I just hope this red rahes fade away.
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Hey Peaty01, first of all thank you for the kind response. Sometimes just talking to someone can be so helpful and a big relief. Yes, as you said this anxiety is taking a toll on me, feels like being controlled and isolated. I hope you to be well and my sincere wishes to you as well.

As for me, right now am trying to engage myself in one thing and another to free my mind. Also am trying my best to not stay alone.

But the moment I see the rashes during shower or changing clothes the feeling of anxiety creeps in.

The psychological doctor told me that there is no alarming risk of exposure via oral sex and protected vaginal sex.

Thanks to you again!! And best regards:-)
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You never had an exposure.
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