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I believe what I did was safe but maybe not? I am very depressed
I am a 60+ y/o married man who has been curious about m2m sex and had my first ever encounter 12 days ago. I am asking this question since I am now experiencing "flu-like" symptoms. While I believe that everything I did is considered "safe sex" I am concerned since I do not know the status of the other man who is several years older. Note that due to prostate surgery he cannot ejaculate semen but does produce pre cum. Here's a full account of the episode:
1. We fondled each other and I believe I did sense a little pre cum on his penis.
2. Thereafter I put on a surgical latex glove and fingered his anus. I do not know if the lubricant was water or oil based but I am certain that the glove remained intact.
3. After digital penetration I inserted a sex toy into his anus. I picked it up with the ungloved hand but did all the manipulation with the gloved hand. During this time I also began to masturbate him with the ungloved hand but he insisted on finishing by masturbating himself. But he did not release any semen ejaculate on his climax due to his medical condition.
4. I carefully removed and disposed the intact the latex glove. But for whatever reason I removed the sex toy with my ungloved hand after he reached for it with right hand. So his right hand must have been near his anal area for a few seconds.
5. He then proceeded to masturbate me with the same right hand.
I should mention that I did not have any cuts or scrapes of any sort on either of my hands and I did not see any on his. Also, I did not see any blood or anything else suspicious on the intact latex glove or the sex toy after they were removed from his anus.
From everything I had read before the encounter I believe everything that we did is considered safe sex with theoretical risk if any. There was no oral sex or anal intercourse or kissing of any kind. I want to believe that the flu-like symptoms I am now experiencing is a coincidence. But I am concerned that I might have misjudged the safety of my encounter; especially since I subsequently learned that he is promiscuous. I would greatly appreciate the forum's help on this since I am getting more depressed every passing day.
1. We fondled each other and I believe I did sense a little pre cum on his penis.
2. Thereafter I put on a surgical latex glove and fingered his anus. I do not know if the lubricant was water or oil based but I am certain that the glove remained intact.
3. After digital penetration I inserted a sex toy into his anus. I picked it up with the ungloved hand but did all the manipulation with the gloved hand. During this time I also began to masturbate him with the ungloved hand but he insisted on finishing by masturbating himself. But he did not release any semen ejaculate on his climax due to his medical condition.
4. I carefully removed and disposed the intact the latex glove. But for whatever reason I removed the sex toy with my ungloved hand after he reached for it with right hand. So his right hand must have been near his anal area for a few seconds.
5. He then proceeded to masturbate me with the same right hand.
I should mention that I did not have any cuts or scrapes of any sort on either of my hands and I did not see any on his. Also, I did not see any blood or anything else suspicious on the intact latex glove or the sex toy after they were removed from his anus.
From everything I had read before the encounter I believe everything that we did is considered safe sex with theoretical risk if any. There was no oral sex or anal intercourse or kissing of any kind. I want to believe that the flu-like symptoms I am now experiencing is a coincidence. But I am concerned that I might have misjudged the safety of my encounter; especially since I subsequently learned that he is promiscuous. I would greatly appreciate the forum's help on this since I am getting more depressed every passing day.
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You were not exposed to any risk of HIV, as you were also advised by BeStrong
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