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Overly Anxious About Infection?
So I'm probably being overly anxious (and I already know myself as an anxious person and a bit of a hypochondriac so no need to diagnose me there. Yes I get therapy for these things.)
So the first weekend of October, I performed oral sex on a guy without a condom (no anal/vaginal sex occurred). Someone I've known for a few years, and who has been with a few partners, but assured me afterwards he always uses condoms when having sex and is clean of STDs. He has been tested before at the doctor, and the results have been clean. Rational me believes this. But I worry.
I had what was diagnosed as an upper respiratory infection (cough, stuffy nose, fatigue, headache, sore throat, etc.), cleared up with antibiotic/steroid. Of course some of this has persisted with cold and dry weather, but the major illness is over. However, my skin was a bit itchy at that point, and when I went to the doctor I had 3 bumps on my upper thigh they told me weren't a concern. However, It has gotten worse since then with now many zit like bumps on my legs, either red or skin colored, and itchy. Plus a couple on my arm or stomach occasionally. As in at times these bumps disappear or get less bad (seem maybe worse itching at night). I have no explanation for this. So could this be a sign of HIV? all these symptoms appeared over 4 weeks later. This rash is freaking me out because I have no other explanation.
The stupidly anxious part about all this, the oral part, is that it did not last very long (~5 min, MAX) and he did not ejaculate in my mouth, so the most there would have been was pre-cum and probably not even much of that. Also, I did not have any mouth sores or bleeding (though I do have sensitive gums in general, they wouldn't have been bleeding at the time), open wounds (nor did he), nor were there any visible cuts/bumps/problems with his penis.
I have not been tested for HIV or any other STD. Is it even possible I'd have anything? All I ask for is peace of mind, or to just have someone say I am probably worrying way too much.
So the first weekend of October, I performed oral sex on a guy without a condom (no anal/vaginal sex occurred). Someone I've known for a few years, and who has been with a few partners, but assured me afterwards he always uses condoms when having sex and is clean of STDs. He has been tested before at the doctor, and the results have been clean. Rational me believes this. But I worry.
I had what was diagnosed as an upper respiratory infection (cough, stuffy nose, fatigue, headache, sore throat, etc.), cleared up with antibiotic/steroid. Of course some of this has persisted with cold and dry weather, but the major illness is over. However, my skin was a bit itchy at that point, and when I went to the doctor I had 3 bumps on my upper thigh they told me weren't a concern. However, It has gotten worse since then with now many zit like bumps on my legs, either red or skin colored, and itchy. Plus a couple on my arm or stomach occasionally. As in at times these bumps disappear or get less bad (seem maybe worse itching at night). I have no explanation for this. So could this be a sign of HIV? all these symptoms appeared over 4 weeks later. This rash is freaking me out because I have no other explanation.
The stupidly anxious part about all this, the oral part, is that it did not last very long (~5 min, MAX) and he did not ejaculate in my mouth, so the most there would have been was pre-cum and probably not even much of that. Also, I did not have any mouth sores or bleeding (though I do have sensitive gums in general, they wouldn't have been bleeding at the time), open wounds (nor did he), nor were there any visible cuts/bumps/problems with his penis.
I have not been tested for HIV or any other STD. Is it even possible I'd have anything? All I ask for is peace of mind, or to just have someone say I am probably worrying way too much.
Yes absolutely until and unless u had unprotected penetrative Anal , Vaginal sex with confirmed positive person or u had share needles ..
And then also if ur rashes would have appeared along with very high fever and sore throat with the weakness which not allowed u to walk out of ur bed and if this continues for a week or two ...
Then i would have given a single though of an hiv ars ..but seriously speaking then to any SYMPTOMS WONT GIVE U INDICATION OF UR STATUS ...I have been through high fever and sore throat after my protected vaginal sex anf i was convinced that i got hiv ..but when i tested i got negative
So stop analyising ur body ..ur risk was no risk situation ...testing is entirly upto you
But my serious advice to u is DONT WASTE UR MONEY AND ENERGY OVER NOOO RISK SITUATION
And then also if ur rashes would have appeared along with very high fever and sore throat with the weakness which not allowed u to walk out of ur bed and if this continues for a week or two ...
Then i would have given a single though of an hiv ars ..but seriously speaking then to any SYMPTOMS WONT GIVE U INDICATION OF UR STATUS ...I have been through high fever and sore throat after my protected vaginal sex anf i was convinced that i got hiv ..but when i tested i got negative
So stop analyising ur body ..ur risk was no risk situation ...testing is entirly upto you
But my serious advice to u is DONT WASTE UR MONEY AND ENERGY OVER NOOO RISK SITUATION
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The rash did start when I had the symptoms I mentioned above (headache, sore throat, stuffy nose, productive cough, fatigue, etc.), but it was less bad. Those symptoms except stuffy nose and occasional cough have been gone for a while, and if anything it has gotten worse. I know all of this is more foolish tho since my friend I did this with says he has gotten tested in the past by doctors and ended up clean, plus always uses condoms for vaginal/anal at least.
No risk=no disease=no ARS.
Your posts keep interchanging no risk with low risk as if they were the same word. You had no risk which you are aware is not the same. You will not get peace until you stop self-diagnosing and studying meaningless symptoms (as far as HIV goes) as if they were proving risk exists.
You are not reading the advice closely enough,and instead are trying to work up an HIV theory by interchanging no risk out of the equation and inserting low risk.
Nothing else to say other than if you won't accept the science here, then see your doctor so he can explain it to you.
Your posts keep interchanging no risk with low risk as if they were the same word. You had no risk which you are aware is not the same. You will not get peace until you stop self-diagnosing and studying meaningless symptoms (as far as HIV goes) as if they were proving risk exists.
You are not reading the advice closely enough,and instead are trying to work up an HIV theory by interchanging no risk out of the equation and inserting low risk.
Nothing else to say other than if you won't accept the science here, then see your doctor so he can explain it to you.
Hiv rashes majorly appears on torso or upper part .And u know ..if these rashes would have beem dere on ur upper part i would be least concerned about hiv as u have NO risk .
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So, meaning even if my rash was concentrated on my torso or chest (there has been a bit of itchiness/bumps on my stomach, but not the primary spot). you still wouldn't worry because the scenario is no/low risk?
You had no risk of HIV and are so safe that you don't need to test.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.
Only adult risks are unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal sex or sharing needles that you inject with but you didn't do that so you had no risk. This sentence is all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from oral activities. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so nothing you can add will make your situation a risk.
No one got HIV from oral activities in 40 years of HIV history, so likely no one will in the next 40 years of your life either.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.
Only adult risks are unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal sex or sharing needles that you inject with but you didn't do that so you had no risk. This sentence is all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from oral activities. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so nothing you can add will make your situation a risk.
No one got HIV from oral activities in 40 years of HIV history, so likely no one will in the next 40 years of your life either.
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There are many reasons for a rash and in your case it isn't from HiV.
Is it possible it could be some other STD?
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