Scared about HIV exposure

[jDANIEL87]

Hello all, very recently I had a sexual encounter with another male, we had very intense oral for a lot of time with no condoms and no ejaculation, (I received) and we had anal sex twice, I bottomed and he came inside me, he wore a condom both times and afterwards I checked the condoms and they were ok.

I am terrified because he had a very  intense red rash, specially on the back,  I am terrified he had ARS and I became infected... please help !!!!

[Vance2335]

He is volunteering on another forum currently.

[jDANIEL87]

Thank you it was really helpfull, does anyone knows what happened to Teak? Is he all right?

[Vance2335]

No

[jDANIEL87]

I guess I'll have to wait and see. Has anyone in the forum came back positive and what was the exposure in your experience?

[Vance2335]

What more do you want to be told?

[jDANIEL87]

Hi everyone please help, I am going crazy over this!

[jDANIEL87]

Hi, sorry to bother you again but I am worried sick about this, because of his rash is it is possible that  my partner was  on the acute HIV phase and I read that that almost guarantees hiv transmission because the load is so massive.
I did deep throat him and let him come in me analy with a condom.. please help I am absolutely a mess right now!

[Midnight_Sun]

As I stated earlier, STOP! with the "testing" of condoms. What is it with everyone filling them with water, or blowing them up? Seriously!? Latex will split wide open if the material is compromised. If the condom was intact upon withdrawal, and covered the head of the penis, it worked as intended...AND this means NO risk for HIV. A NO risk event would not require testing. However, as a general rule all sexually active people should get a comprehensive STD screening at least once a year.

[jDANIEL87]

Thank you very much  for your answer, I am really scared here. I tested the condoms afterwards inflating them, not with wáter, and as I can remember they did not slip, however we also had oral unprotected  and the rash on my partner could be ARS in which case having sex with him was probably the worst mistake ever!.... should I get tested?

[Midnight_Sun]

You state that both times you and your partner had sex a condom was used, and it did not break or slip off. If the condoms used were latex condoms, then you experienced NO risk from HIV.
How did you "test" the condoms? Did you fill them with water? If so, STOP! Condoms with defects are designed to fail catastrophically. You and your partner would have known if the condoms failed. If the condom is still intact upon withdrawal, then it has done it's job.
ARS is indicative of early HIV infection. However, since you did NOT experience a risk of HIV from the encounter you describe, your rash could not be a symptom of ARS.
On a more personal note. Consider that over 70% of all new HIV infections are from gay and bisexual men. Any man who has sex with men should inquire of his partner's HIV PRIOR to having sex. Doing this in the future should prevent unneeded anxiety as most people tell the truth, and HIV transmission is only possible if one of the participants is HIV+.