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What Happens in Vegas . . .
I have a pretty tough situation that I need some help with. I was in Vegas in the beginning of May and won a ton of money. Was totally blitzed when I called my wife to relay the good news at around 5:30 AM. Told her I was going back down with a few bucks to continue the streak. I sort of remember leaving the room, remember being at a table, remember talking to a girl at the table kind of and that's it. Woke up in my room the next day at 2 PM in my regular night time attire under my covers with no evidence of someone else having been in the room. Not ever having cheated before in the ten years of being with my wife I didn't think much of it and me and my massive hangover moved on.
Then on July 21st I broke out with what looked like bug bites that itched like crazy. There weren't many but they were in a variety of places. One on my chest, one on my stomch, a few on my beltline a few on my neckline a few on shoulder . . . Anyway they came and went in about 4-5 days a few of them leaving little marks on my skin. Because I'm a hypo and never having anything like this before I started googling rashes and of course came across HIV rash which didn't look like what I had but a few images I saw could have been close. Of course I then thought back to my Vegas night as being my only chance of infection. I didn't have any other symptoms so I dismissed it until . . . .
A week later my wife got a low grade fever that ranged from 99.5 - 100.5 that lasted a week. She also had muscle aches throughout and a pretty bad headache on the last day. She also had trouble breathing deeply. Throughout that week the fever would come and go. Be there in the morning gone at night, gone in the morning start up again at night. She was never really wiped out but a couple of times she felt pretty beat. Never took time off work and in fact we had a few nights of drinking in the middle of it. I of course was a wreck knowing that it all looked pretty right on for ARS. She cleared up and I was still a mess. I told her of my concern and about the missing hours in Vegas which she said I was being crazy.
So here, finally is the question:
I realize that to begin with this is a crazy scenario but do the symptoms and time frame that have transpired sound indicative of ARS?
I went to a doctor and gave him the same story and he said I was being concerned about nothing as well and prescribed me xanax. The thing is that none of these symptoms can be anxiety driven because neither me or my wife was under an impression that we were ever at risk when we experienced the symptoms. Another thing that concerns me is that my wife also went to a doctor on the last day of her fever episode and they said it seemed like nothing but did say that it was viral. She never had a runny nose or stuffy head. Also, we have two young children and neither they nor I came down with it. Now my mind is starting to play some serious tricks on me. Losing sleep, trouble concentrating at work.
Any thoughts on this situation from any of you would be extremely appreciated.
Then on July 21st I broke out with what looked like bug bites that itched like crazy. There weren't many but they were in a variety of places. One on my chest, one on my stomch, a few on my beltline a few on my neckline a few on shoulder . . . Anyway they came and went in about 4-5 days a few of them leaving little marks on my skin. Because I'm a hypo and never having anything like this before I started googling rashes and of course came across HIV rash which didn't look like what I had but a few images I saw could have been close. Of course I then thought back to my Vegas night as being my only chance of infection. I didn't have any other symptoms so I dismissed it until . . . .
A week later my wife got a low grade fever that ranged from 99.5 - 100.5 that lasted a week. She also had muscle aches throughout and a pretty bad headache on the last day. She also had trouble breathing deeply. Throughout that week the fever would come and go. Be there in the morning gone at night, gone in the morning start up again at night. She was never really wiped out but a couple of times she felt pretty beat. Never took time off work and in fact we had a few nights of drinking in the middle of it. I of course was a wreck knowing that it all looked pretty right on for ARS. She cleared up and I was still a mess. I told her of my concern and about the missing hours in Vegas which she said I was being crazy.
So here, finally is the question:
I realize that to begin with this is a crazy scenario but do the symptoms and time frame that have transpired sound indicative of ARS?
I went to a doctor and gave him the same story and he said I was being concerned about nothing as well and prescribed me xanax. The thing is that none of these symptoms can be anxiety driven because neither me or my wife was under an impression that we were ever at risk when we experienced the symptoms. Another thing that concerns me is that my wife also went to a doctor on the last day of her fever episode and they said it seemed like nothing but did say that it was viral. She never had a runny nose or stuffy head. Also, we have two young children and neither they nor I came down with it. Now my mind is starting to play some serious tricks on me. Losing sleep, trouble concentrating at work.
Any thoughts on this situation from any of you would be extremely appreciated.
You would remember if you'd had sex. I am sure large pieces of the night are evading your memory, but things as large as sex would stand out, if only in small bits and pieces. The human mind is very strong and capable and I have no doubt you would remember had you had sex with someone that night. If you remain worried, get a test ONLY for your peace of mind so you can let this go entirely.
I'm only worried because of the coincidence that the first time in ten years that I have a possible issue my wife winds up getting her one and only fever since I've known her and it comes complete with some other fairly dubious symptoms.
One thing I have to tell people about my wife though. So I come clean that I may have been flirting with some sex worker on the night I lost a few hours of memory due to drinking and that I'm concerned because of her fever and symptoms that I may have given her HIV. Knowing that it would mean that I cheated on her for it to be the case she looked me in the eye and said " I love you and we'd get through it". Coolest woman in the world.
One thing I have to tell people about my wife though. So I come clean that I may have been flirting with some sex worker on the night I lost a few hours of memory due to drinking and that I'm concerned because of her fever and symptoms that I may have given her HIV. Knowing that it would mean that I cheated on her for it to be the case she looked me in the eye and said " I love you and we'd get through it". Coolest woman in the world.
If you are worried, just get tested. Either at a doctor's office or through a self home test kit sold at many lacal drug stores.
So basically you want us to speculate if you had sex and if the sex was protected or unprotected? Somethning we can't do.
I made blacking out in college a weekend thing. Yes I don't remember parts of the night and things like conversations and actions, but I always remember who I was with (sexually). Even on my worst night St.Patty's day I still remember bits and pieces of the girl I had sex with. So I am very familar with blacking out and I know that memory is still there.
I made blacking out in college a weekend thing. Yes I don't remember parts of the night and things like conversations and actions, but I always remember who I was with (sexually). Even on my worst night St.Patty's day I still remember bits and pieces of the girl I had sex with. So I am very familar with blacking out and I know that memory is still there.
so in your mind you are "thinking" that you had sex with someone and dont even remember anyone in your room????
Sorry Lizzie. When I originally left the tables at 5:30 AM I was pretty foggy but I remember my buddy kind of escorting me to the cages and up to my room because there were some (assuming BTW) prostitutes that were interested in us. I barely remember this in fact my friend had to remind me of it the next day. After I called my wife I got all amped up to gamble some more so I told her i was heading back to the casino (really stupid on a number of levels). As I mentioned the last thing I remember was sitting at a blackjack table talking to a girl who was gambling next to me. In the past I have had episodes when I drink to much (like 2 or 3 times in college) where I black out but my body is still walking about. In fact in college I had an entire deep conversation apparently where I seemed totally fine to the person I was talking to and I didn't remember it one bit.
So as far as I know my risk was essentially zero considering my history of being faithful to my wife and having absolutely zero reason to believe (either in Memory or evidence) that I brought someone up to my room. However, given the blackout (which if course comes with some guilt) and my lost hours given the last memory I have from the night combined with symptoms that are dead on have me really concerned that I had someone up there. I also remember a night of profuse sweating sometime in my recent past but I can't be too sure exactly when.
I know symptoms mean nothing but I was looking for some thoughts from people who appear to have seen and heard everything.
So as far as I know my risk was essentially zero considering my history of being faithful to my wife and having absolutely zero reason to believe (either in Memory or evidence) that I brought someone up to my room. However, given the blackout (which if course comes with some guilt) and my lost hours given the last memory I have from the night combined with symptoms that are dead on have me really concerned that I had someone up there. I also remember a night of profuse sweating sometime in my recent past but I can't be too sure exactly when.
I know symptoms mean nothing but I was looking for some thoughts from people who appear to have seen and heard everything.
...and your risk was what?????
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