What's my risk?

[NYC_Never]

Going to keep it short. On Sep21 I was in NYC Korean town for business. Ran into a pimp and because I had some alcohol at the time, I paid him 200 bucks and he took me to an apartment to have sex with a Korean CSW. The girl gave me a bath and had protected sex for about 20 mins. I used condom but also gave unprotected oral to her. The problem is in the end, somehome the condom fell inside her cuz she used lub on my penis for a partial hand job in the middle and then put the condom back on. So I guess my penis was unprotected for about 10 sec until she realized. So she stopped, and ejec me by her hand.
There were 4 girls and an old lady in the apartment, they seemed very organized, and the girl is actually pretty protective. no kiss in the mouse, no fingers and no sex without condom.
Afterward I went back to hotel in about half an hour, washed off my penis with water and soup(i am uncircumcised).
What do you think the chance she has HIV and the chance of I getting HIV from her? I have been extremely worried in the past 2-3 weeks. Did a quick test (blood from fingertip) in 2 weeks and 2 days, negative. going to do another one in 3 weeks and 4 weeks. I am pretty much in a ultra-anxiety mode now, can't sleep or eat well. light diarrhea from week 2 for about 5 days now. always felt my face is hot and kind of dizzy, however temperature in my mouth is constantly 36.8
Please help!!

[joggen]

A test at 23 days will pick up APPROXIMATELY 80% of infections.

[NYC_Never]

Just had a quick test (fingertip) at 23 days and it's negative.

However, today I felt multiple flu like symptoms, muscles pain (in legs), fatigue, sligh headache, which are my normal symptom before a cold. I am scared to death wondering if a HIV conversion is coming.

Does anyone know the chance of HIV after 23 days negative? Really really appreciate it.

[Exworriedwell99]

I ran the scenarios hundreds of times in my head everyday..

That, my dear friend is the problem. thinking about it is not going to help.

Do you do a what if scenario everytime you step out of your house?

for example.

What if, the moment I step out of the house and a lightning bolt hits me?
What if, when I am at a intersection a crazy drunk driver runs over me?
What if, I am passing a construction site and a crane drops a steel column right over my head?

So, if you do not think about these what if scenarios, why do you think about the what if scenarios when coming to a single unprotected exposure?

[NYC_Never]

Thanks for your comments.

What happened to me is that there is this korean guy walking aorund his van in NYC's korean town. He can barely speak english but when he saw me, he asked if I want girls. So then I went into his van, he called someone and drove me over to an apartment building nearby. it's on the 2nd floor, red carpet and many small rooms. The girls can barely speak english as well. and then you know what happened after that. It's not exactly like a assian massage parlor you've been to.

I ran the scenarios hundreds of times in my head everyday.. what if the korean CSW has HIV with high viral load, what if my immune was weak during my business trip and what if ... I mean HIV rate in NYC is highest among US, and who knows what's the background of this girl, maybe she is illegal immigrant or soemthing...

I understand the risk is small and I am going to test it more than once in the next couple of months.

It's just the whatif that screws my mind once in a while and drives me crazy. to tell the truth, i am getting married in 1 week and this is like a living hell for me for the past 3 weeks, but the guilt and the risk. It'll be nice that it's just a dream or I can just undo it.

[Exworriedwell99]

To alleviate your anxiety-
Most Asian CSW's are ultrasensitive about protection. These girls are neither drug users or alcholics. Most do this for a living and very professional.
One reason they give you a shower is becuase they want to check if you are healthy and do not have any open sores or any indications of STD.
Most would outrightly reject a customer even if they see an herpes infection.

How do i know this?
Because I used to frequent the assian massage parlors at one time.

Considering this, your risk is negligible thought not enough reason to not test. Testing has been recommnended so that you can put the episode behind and move on with your life.

[NYC_Never]

Thanks for your reply. Since I don't live in NYC, it's almost impossible to reach her. The thing is these CSWs work in a fixed location, and with the amount of $$ they charge (200), is it likely the chance of HIV is small?

I have been living in a highly anxious state. Waking up multiple time every early morning, anxious, depressed and can't go back to sleep. And my face will get hot and start developing light diarrhea in the morning. 6 days in a row. I also have to constantly clear my throat as if something is inside, no sore tho. Are these HIV symptoms?

Did test at day 16, going to get tested again at day 23, 32 and 42.
If I get negative at day 23, what's the chance of I having HIV?

Thank you so much for ur answer, it puts me in a better peace.
I am learning the lesson and will not have sex with anyone except my wife.

[joggen]

Your risk isn't as high as you might think. HIV is a difficult virus to transmit. And the brevity of your exposure makes it even less likely that you got infected. While you did have a risk that requires testing, in the grand scheme of things it's way too low to be worthy of much concern.

Since you are likely to remain anxious until you get this sorted out through testing, I would recommend that you ask your Korean CSW partner to get tested. Or pay her for her time if you have to. Her negative result, while not removing the need for your own testing, would still be highly reassuring for you.

Regarding your own plans for testing, I would recommend another test at 6 weeks and a final test at 3 months; the 6 week test can also be considered to be highly reassuring.

Hope this helps.